Am I right to be pissed off about this?

[Gigimoll]

Okay.. So I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with our ds. Our dd is 9 months old (I know before anyone says, it's soon)
So my partner was recently let go from his job. Whereas I'm working and back to work now. He's had a lot of spare time on his hands when our dd naps etc and he's decided to get back in touch with an old friend. I say old friend, he's been nothing but good to my fiancé. But sketchy with me as he's always expressed a more than friendly interest with me. But I think he's a creep. I know he's had convictions, on the register and raped people. He's been a disgusting human being. But he's "chilled" out a lot now since having his own ds and getting engaged. I'm not sure how much I believe this cause there was a time a few years back he saved every single Facebook picture I've ever took on his phone. An I've never ever expressed a hint of interest to him. As much as my fiancé really gets me down sometimes, he's still my life partner and I'm somewhat happy.

Anyways. So after a few short weeks of those two getting back in touch, I found out today that this friend is coming over Saturday.
While I'm at work and my fiancé had NO insentive to tell me. Originally my fiancé was meant to go over to his so I could stay at home with dd. I was invited but I don't get on with his fiancé and I'd feel awkward.
So I'm pissed off. I'm pissed off I'd have had to have come home from work after a long morning shift really struggling now with spd, back pain etc and not being able to leave so soon cause he can't get a job and deal with this creep.
I don't want him around my daughter unless I'm there.
This house we're in is my childhood home. I run it. I maintain it. I pay for it. I work hard for it to try and get the mortgage to buy it from my dad. As far as I'm concerned, it's mine and my children's home. Not my partners sole home and he has the right to invite people in not keen on around my back and around dd without thinking he should inform me.

Am I being pregnancy hormone unreasonable or am I in the right here?

I work 9 hours on a Saturday. I don't want to come home to them both screaming over a game. I want to come home and relax. But I mean, a but of notice would be appreciated from him!

Exactly Offred which is why im surprised OP isnt running for the hills.

Your 22:46 post yesterday reeks of martyrdom. You DO NOT have to be happy with this situation. Your boyfriend is happy with things as they are so has no incentive to change. Think about it.

Op trust me on this: a rubbish partner and crap dad is not better then no dad. In fact from my experience of it the children are constantly trying to 'make it up to their parents'.

One of the things you've stated your DP gives you is security, as you live in an unsafe area. So you want him to keep potential criminals away from your home?

Yet he's inviting a convicted rapist into your home. He's letting the actual risk INTO your house.

I'd say you'd be far safer on your own with the DC.

I bet the friend has' chilled out' since getting a partner because he's got someone at home he can abuse whenever he likes :(

Oh gosh OP, you need my username! I took it when I was in a situation like yours with the useless partner and 2 small children close in age. (None of the scary rapist stuff though and we were older with good jobs) I left the useless shit and my life has been so much better ever since, he even became a good dad. Being a single mom is hard at the beginning but definitely not impossible.

You have so much on your plate at such a young age, I really feel for you. It has to be your decision but when I poured out my heart on Mumsnet a good few years ago I also said 'I've made my bed so now I've got to lie in it' and a very prominent poster (who I haven't seen in a long time) posted saying that if you got in your bed and it was uncomfortable, you would get out and remake it wouldn't you? You would do that as many times as it took for you to be comfortable - really struck a cord with me, perhaps it will with you.

White - IMO because she’s been ground down so much that she doesn’t feel like how she feels matters or that it is possible for her to deal with making changes....

I understand that.

The thing is gigimoll, you will keep on being ground down even further if you stay with him.

"Please don't marry him."

This - times a million! If you marry him, you won't even own the home you worked so hard for. For the sake of your DC and your sanity, don't marry him. And in the shorter term, tell him this creep is banned and tell him why. Non-negotiable.