Please tell me how to stop feeling broken hearted

[Needaneusername]

Will I ever feel normal again? Please help. I have noone to talk to

It depends what broke your heart I guess. If it's a relationship sure you will get better but I can think of other things where my heart would never be mended.

What's happened? Has a relationship broken down or have you suffered a bereavement?

Lots of people will help you.

Yes, you will feel normal again. Time is a great healer, whatever has happened in your life. Focus on everything positive in your life and pursue your own interests and one day, not too far from now, those painful memories will fade into the background.

He's ended it with me. A relationship. I've never felt this way before. Sorry I am 33 not 15.

He said he still feels the same.

It happened two nights ago. I've hardly slept since. I can't eat.

Time. Never the answer any of us wants to hear.

Thank you

Only time really there's no easy way. Just one day at a time. Please don't try to contact him if he has said not to it only increasing the pain when there's no response or you discover you've been blocked etc. I do actually feel your pain though going through it myself atm. Keep yourself busy if you can it reduces the overthinking and analysis of it all over and over it just does your head in. Hug for you it's not easy.

When my exh did something I knew I could never forgive I told him to move out. I cried 24/7 for 3 weeks!! Then I started thinking of all the things I could do now without his miserable face scowling disapprovingly at me!! I changed the furniture around, bought new bed +bedding and loads of 'stuff' that I liked!. Give yourself time to mourn your relationship and you will soon see hope of a fresh beginning - a much better one!

I keep writing him messages and then deleting without sending. I can't believe this is it. How can he be gone from my life just like that? He said he wanted to be with me forever.

Look into therapy. Even if you can afford private alot of charities offer therapy with students and ask for donations.

honestly, time. My relationship ended in November, it's only the last couple of weeks I've felt somewhat calm again.

It's a shitty situation but it will get easier.

Delete his number. Quite liberating!

I'm still hoping he'll text me. I keep checking it but nothing. He told me he meant everything he said so how can he do this to me?

Have you any idea why?

He is under a lot of stress, on meds and getting help for it but he wasn't coping well with life in general. His way of dealing with things is to ignore them until they become impossible to ignore and then collapsing under the strain of it all.

Sorry to hear this. No contact is best, if you didn’t have DC.

It was so sudden. We were happy the day before but I knew he was finding life hard. He makes snap decisions. This was all done by text, he wouldn't answer the phone. It was an LDR. There is no chance of me bumping into him anywhere. He's gone from my life like nothing ever happened and I feel like I never existed in his.

Needaneusername It sounds such a cliche but time is the only thing that will stop you hurting so much. The first few weeks and months can be raw and all consuming but it will get better.

How long were you together?

Did he give you an honest explanation of why he has ended the relationship? - This can make a big difference in helping you process everything and help to eventually reach closure.

Be kind to yourself.

I don't want people to laugh or think I'm being stupid because we were only together for a year. I've had much longer relationships but I've never felt like this before.

Sorry just read your update - It sounds as if he may have pushed you away as he he needs to focus on himself for a while. Is he receiving help with managing stress / coping strategies?

My marriage ending was less painful. I didnt have this connection. It was so deep. I believe in clichés now. I thought it was nonsense before.

Yes sassy he is getting help, he's seeing people and is on a lot of different meds. Since he started them he has had mood swings and his behaviour has changed. I feel like they caused this.

I think you're feeling this bad because although he ended it, it isn't finished in that he didn't explain himself & you're left feeling you can't move on because you don't know why he wanted to end it.
I suspect that if he finds life in general difficult it was probably nothing to do with you & ending things might have been the only way he can manage the rest of his life- if that makes sense. He may have got overwhelmed by the responsibility of a relationship on top of everything else.

It is actuslly only time that will heal you. You have to treat it like an illness, you will recover but you have to be kind to yourself right now.