I ended my affair and now I’m sad.

[LadyCafe]

I posted about a week of or so ago. I’ve been talking to a man for 2 months. We saw eachother 3x. The next step was to sleep together and I couldn’t do it even though I really wanted to. Now I’m thinking, did I make a mistake? He was really upset and told me to text soon if possible.

He also said he’ll be looking for a new affair partner. I didn’t tell him but I felt a pang of jealousy! What is wrong with me?

I know this all sounds terrible.

he just wants a shag and anyone will do
Exactly. If that's your "perfect", I'm sure you'll find another Mr Perfect by the end of the day.

Let's hope this is your last affair, I pity his poor wife.
OP, possibly you're one of many, get yourself checked out.

OP IS THE BULLET

So it was just for the thrill of it??

I just wanted to add...

Hahahaaahahahhhaaaaaahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa!😂

Also no he wasn’t just saying he’d be looking for a new affair partner. Yes, he wants to hurt you, but also yes, he will fuck whatever he can get.

What has your husband done to deserve your shitty behaviour !?

Do the right thing, tell him everything and give him the chance to go and find an ' affair mate '

Firstly, he is a player, Secondly, don’t miss him get yourself to the nearest STD clinic and see what infection he has given you.

Do you have no respect for yourself or DH !!!!

Your DH deserves so much better. Please leave him so you can go and live in whatever stupid fantasy world you’ve created. Give your head a wobble.

This was your ‘first’ affair. Wtf?

well done you. sadness will pass

Seriously people...this post sounds super naive/selfish but I've been on that side and the likelihood of her not having anyone to talk to is actually pretty high! So leave the judgement aside.

Affairs (emotional or sexual) devastate innocent parties. This man seems to be determined to have one, he just wants sex with somebody other than his wife. What a catch he is!

Please work on your marriage if what you say about loving your husband is really true.
I speak as somebody who is currently picking up the emotional pieces of her spouses betrayal (he claimed to 'really love' me despite his infidelity too) Please consider the consequences.

Gawd..

This would have been my first affair. I didn’t do it

Actually did you (hence the title) , because you were texting him and the both of you were talking about having sex amongst interests etc. You both justified it because both your families had affairs.

You've crossed the line already by having an emotional affair so lets not downplay it. He had THREE affairs before you. One of the women was shagging about left right and centre. The guy is a walking STD. He is married but on dating websites.

I hope your husband realises what type of person you are.

Would you forgive your DH if he came to you and described a situation the same as yours? Would you write it off as not being an affair because there was no fucking in the end? Like hell you would, and rightly so.

You’ve had an EA with the intent to consumate it. You should make that clear to your husband so he can make an informed choice as to whether he wants to stay in and fix the marriage you’ve broken.

I thought too this all could work out perfectly. :/

Yeah I'm sure your poor DH would be thinking just that

I remember your thread. Glad you saw the light. But- Do you think he said that to hurt me? About finding another partner? No, he doesn't care about you, you were nothing to him except the latest fuck. He said it as a last attempt to reel you in and make you crazy. Do not dwell on that question, it will drive you loopy.
So what are you going to do about your marriage?

Do you think he said that to hurt me? About finding another partner?

Who cares, you don't care about hurting your husband. So who cares how hurt you get?

Don't you like the idea of him shagging someone else? Imagine how your husband feels, although you didn't quite make it that far but still awful.

Your husband deserves better than you!

You met this other male 3 times.
You've emotionally cheated if not anything more.

This male wants another "Affair partner" to treat as meat. You actually both deserve each other

niteandfog sorry but I have fuck all sympathy after her selfish comments

It's her husband and that shit head's wife I have sympathy for

Seriously people...this post sounds super naive/selfish but I've been on that side and the likelihood of her not having anyone to talk to is actually pretty high! So leave the judgement aside

Not bloody surprised she's got no one to talk to about it! Is she scared they'll judge her? Because they will! She's not expressed any sympathy for her husband it's al me me me!.

Yikes! I’m sh*t, ok. Thank you.

Of course I care about my husband! Why do you think I stopped it?!

I’m expressing my feelings on here because I have no one to talk to. I thought someone would at least listen without judgement. It’s a whirlwind of emotions and I don’t feel like myself. I’m lost. I was vulnerable and this guy came along.

I learned. One thing that I will take away from all of this is to not judge a woman in the same situation. I will listen and hear her story. I’ll share my experience with her hoping she will back away as well.

Of course I care about my husband! Why do you think I stopped it?!

Tbf if that really is true, then you wouldn't have started it in the first place.

You're playing the victim here, which of course you are not.

You want sympathy for the way this dickhead has spoken to you now you've ended it - were you thinking about your husband's feelings when you started the whole thing?

Big girl pants on and get on with your life.