Hi all, thanks for reading
I really don't know what to do anymore, my gorgeous wife has totally changed since weve been married (just over 2 years ago). when we first met her sex drive was equal to mine and the intimacy was fantastic but now its completely 1 sided, ive tried literally everything (holding back, working out, trying to set a romantic scene etc) I try so hard to be a good husband and parent to our three boys and I'm always there to help her with uni studies etc. I think shes either bored of me or doesant find me attractive whatsoever anymore, (she says the honeymoon period ended ages ago) I'm so fed up and depressed I feel like I'm trapped because whenever I would like to have sex (my wife has initiated sex once since marriage) theres always an excuse and now its causing arguments and its making me so depressed/ angry, this is now a problem in itself because obviously it adds more pressure and the distance between intimacy is lengthened even more, I'm totally at my wits end and its always on my mind, she says she loves me and finds me attractive but I just cant see how? when we argue she goes on about me pressuring her and I totally understand that but like ive tried many times before ill stay well clear of her (no sexual talk or touching of any kind) and the weeks just go by with absolutely nothing from her in terms of intimacy. its almost like I can never get my needs met and hers are always met, I feel so selfish and stupid at the same time, the things she says when we argue makes me feel like its all my fault and I'm doing everything wrong but I do think that if someone is rejected by there partner a million times its going to make then depressed and moody? the only explanation is that I'm doing something wrong and cant figure it out, I've cuddled up watching chick flicks (not to work up to sex), I'm like Mrs doubtfire with the housework, I spend loads of time playing with the kids etc, I buy her gifts, take her out, I try and look after myself, blah blah, I just don't get it. I just want her to find me sexy the way I do her but there's absolutely nothing, so what the hell should I do? ill never cheat and I don't want to separate, all I can see is that I'm stuck and there's nothing I can do about it : (
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Feelng worthles OH doesant fancy me anymore
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MattGecko · 17/01/2018 18:22
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