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How did you meet your OH?

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capturingdaydreams · 13/01/2018 22:27

And who made the first move? Currently single and looking for inspiration :)

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MirandaWest · 13/01/2018 22:29

On OK cupid. I messaged him first Smile

yawnyawnyawnyawn · 13/01/2018 22:32

In our local pub 25 years ago .

HappydaysArehere · 13/01/2018 22:36

Dancing class sixty years ago. It was a kind of class/club for teenagers. It was called the Lambeth School of Dancing. The second week I went I looked up at this handsome face who was asking me to dance. That was that ...

Princesspinkgirl · 13/01/2018 22:38

Online on a social networking site

mindutopia · 13/01/2018 22:55

We were both expats working overseas in the same city. There was a small English speaking community and we happened to have work colleagues at each of our respective offices who were dating (they’re also now married). They each invited us out for after work drinks and that’s how we met and became friends. We went away for the weekend with friends about a month later and it just clicked. I don’t think either really made the first move. It truly was mutual, like a light bulb turned on one night and we both realised we were more than just friends. We didn’t even kiss for like another week or two but we spent every day and night together after that pretty much and we got married three years later.

Sounds so cliche but I really do believe it happens when you least expect it. I took that job and moved away from home after years of disastrous relationships and pretty much swore off men the night before I caught my flight there (after the guy I’d been dating several months stood me up at my going away party!). I was NOT looking at all and then two months later my now dh pretty much just fell into my life and that was that.

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capturingdaydreams · 13/01/2018 23:00

Aw, that's a lovely story mindutopia!

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WordWeasel · 13/01/2018 23:00

Online dating.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 13/01/2018 23:02

I was working behind the bar in a working men's club and he was on the committee. He asked me out and I didn't realise he wanted to date me, I thought he was just being friendly. 19 year later here we are still!

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 13/01/2018 23:03

OK cupid. Met face to face 3 weeks later.

Picklepickle123 · 13/01/2018 23:03

At university. I wasn't sure at the beginning, but didn't know how to end it (young and naive) but we've been married for five years now and he's the best DH in the world!

We actually met through an extra curricular activity that neither of us wanted to do but had been coerced into by friends...

ScreamingValenta · 13/01/2018 23:08

In a pub, with mutual friends. My sister knew him vaguely before I met him.

carringtonm · 13/01/2018 23:13

Met at uni in 2008. I was with someone else until a year after uni finished, then DP drunk messaged me on Facebook a week or so after I got dumped by ex. We chatted for weeks, then decided we should see one another in person and see if there was anything to pursue. We were living two hours apart so met up in central locations for a few 'dates' and I moved to his city after a year. Bought our first house two years later and now we are expecting our first baby in the summer.

I wouldn't have been interested at uni and we both say that if we'd got together there we wouldn't be together now because we needed the years in between to develop into the people we are now. I couldn't be happier and he's absolutely wonderful.

Jiffa · 13/01/2018 23:15

Plenty of Fish - I messaged him first - I'd been on lots of dates through this site and met a lot of lovely guys although didn't 'click' with any until meeting himSmile we've now been together for 3 years!

wiltingfast · 13/01/2018 23:20

Nightclub

He made the first moveGrin

Littlelambpeep · 13/01/2018 23:22

Nightclub

MelloDee · 13/01/2018 23:31

Online dating site, back when online dating was deemed sad and desperate! So we lied about how we met to friends and family. And to this day nobody but us know how we met.

He was my first attempt at online dating too. Got a message from him just 2 weeks into signing up. Knew he was a keeper from the first date.

Married with kids now.

HorseItIntoMe · 13/01/2018 23:48

In 2006 I was a singer in a rock band (not famous I might add!)

DH is a drummer and via a website for musicians he saw our bands MySpace page. and basically really fancied me

Shortly after our drummer left so we put an ad out for a new drummer. DH came and auditioned (he is a drummer) just cos he fancied me (although I didn’t realise that at the time!) . I liked him too and actually barely spoke to him for months as I fancied him so much. I never thought he’d be interested in me as I was a lot younger, a student, a big kid really. and he was ten years older, had a house a decent job etc basically a grown up man unlike the boys I’d dated

I was a single Mum to dc1 and casually seeing someone else. but we had so much in common we eventually became friends and a few months later he admitted he fancied me, we got together, got rapidly engaged then had a baby got married then another baby and ten years on here we are.

The band is no more though 😅

maras2 · 13/01/2018 23:58

Young Socialist meeting 1968.
I made the first move. Wink
Married in 1975.
2 DC's
3 DGC's
We're both now retired and still into politics, DH more so than me.
We still really like, and love each other and find plenty to talk about despite spending so much time together.
Hope that doesn't sound too smug Blush

IloveJudgeJudy · 14/01/2018 01:16

Via a friend I used to commute to work with. He was sort of in the outer ring of a very loose social circle. He had previously dated a casual friend of mine, but I hadn't noticed him.

We went out on a first date with loads of mutual friends so that if it didn't work out it wouldn't be weird. We went on a second date, saying it would be slow; within a week I'd told him I loved him! 27 years together, 25 years married and 3dc later, we're still together and still very much in love.

frecklemcspeckles · 14/01/2018 01:19

Met at school. He went to the husband school near my girls school. We were part of a larger friendship group for a coiled years. The went to uni and for together between first and second year after a group game of "dare" at a house party. 20 years on he's still my soul mate. Love him.

MyKingdomForBrie · 14/01/2018 01:19

At work, though I didn’t like him at all at first!

frecklemcspeckles · 14/01/2018 01:20

*husband school??!!! He ah? What???? That should Have read boys' school lolShock

ScreamingValenta · 14/01/2018 01:29

@frecklemcspeckles Husband school? Tell me more! Sounds like a brilliant idea Wink.

Fluffyblanket17 · 14/01/2018 01:32

Infant school, we’ve always been friends but didn’t get together til early 20’s

MistressDeeCee · 14/01/2018 07:14

At an event, whilst on a date with someone else. My date was being a bore..he'd bumped into some mates outside and was talking to them for ages. I was standing there cold and fed up so decided to wander back inside. Then had a real eyes meet across the room moment with a handsome guy, and that was it. Bye bye date, hello OH. 5 years on & still happy. Getting married next June.