Happy NYE to all. Just a quick question regarding how you'd understand this... Dilemma with DP. We love each other very much though this year we've had a number of pretty intense arguments partly owing to some stressful life circumstances. Nonetheless we do feel we can work through them and things have improved immensely recently.
More recently we have been discussing getting engaged (to the point of discussing ring styles etc). DP has said that he wants us to be engaged by July as we will be going abroad then for a family event. However, this evening I asked him how long he felt an engagement would be before marriage. His answer was 'until we're as happy as we can be.' I feel like this isn't enough - surely if you're confident enough to make the decision to get engaged then it's with a view to marrying soon (like within a year or eighteen months).
I don't want him to ask me with a plan for there being a 'long engagement' of years and years until he feels we're at this magic 'as happy as we can be' moment. I'd like him to be asking me with confidence that I'm the person he loves and will be happy with. I feel like if he's not confident enough to want me as his wife within a reasonable amount of time post engagement then it's not really a 'real' engagement and doesn't count.
Just be curious to hear people's opinions on what it means to get engaged and when it's a good time to do it?