How to play a player

[Playingaplayer]

I’ve wasted a lot of time dating a man who hasn’t treated me properly. It’s taken me a while to see that he’s a player despite everything he says. I know now there is no future in any of it. What I’m interested in is how to play him at his own game in the short term. Not in terms of dating multiple men as that isn’t my style (if I met someone decent I would walk away from him) but in terms of how to treat him between meet ups and how to respond when he blows hot and cold.

Why not just bin him?

You’re avoiding ending it. Just end it! That’s the biggest power play of all.

Block his number and email addresses, delete him from all your social media, and just go cold turkey. Youll be over him sooooooo much faster than if you try anything else.

Don't waste your energy is how you play it.

That sounds dreadful OP - why waste any more time on him or wait for someone else to come along????!! bin him off now.

I want the satisfaction of knowing I’ve treated him in the same way

You aren't going to get that satisfaction though OP whatever you do, because you are more invested in the relationship than him. He treats you badly because he doesn't care, you are upset and vengeful because you do care and so your pride is hurt. The best thing is to just bin him with no explanation, block and delete.

Ypu won't win ehile you still care so much what thinks

Just ghost him. Leave him confused. No contact whatsoever from you and he will always wonder. You sticking around to try and witness a reaction is playing right into his hands

What he thinks

I want the satisfaction of knowing I’ve treated him in the same way

He won’t give a shiny shit. Just ghost him like AF said

Rise above it. End it. Move forward

Don't stoop to his level Op, head high and blank him. Seriously, silence can be the most powerful weapon sometimes.

But what if he doesn't give a shit about being played? Then once again you're at the receiving end of it.

I agree with WhatsGoingOnEh that this keeps things going between you - no matter how much you might try to convince yourself that you're simply out for revenge. "Revenge" always means there's still a connection.

Just ghost him. Sadly he won't care if you treat him the way he's treated you.

You don’t. Simple as that. Unless you enjoy mutual head fuckery, second guessing and Machiavellian games.

Don’t invest any energy. A man who plays you does not want you enough. He will mess you around and eventually leave you for the girl he really falls for or carry on being a twat.

End it. Tell him you deserve more and are walking.

Shape up and ship out

Sounds utterly pointless and likely to just result in you getting even more angry/upset when he doesn’t react in the way you’d planned he would in your head.

Just ghost him as suggested.

I think you have to not give a shit to control that sort of situation. Unfortunately you do care, and that means you won’t win.
Walk away (for good, not in hopes he follows).

You can want that satisfaction, sadly you will not get any satisfaction as he has probably moved onto another/a few already !!!

End it, block him on all social media apps & from your phone that should give you lots of satisfaction.

How is he a 'player'?

You can’t play him as he doesn’t care enough
So ghost him instead 🤣

Are you by any chance the poster who wanted to know how you could find out the ins and outs of the old POF profile you found for your partner?

Totally ghost him and do it now. You won't win, he won't give a stuff if you try and play him, he'll just pity you and no one wants that!

Not worth your time or energy. Put that time & energy into learning how you got into that situation and how to avoid it (of course sometimes part of it is unavoidable).

Also use the time to enjoy yourself and meet new people. Indifference and positivity is the true revenge.

You can't play a player. They don't give a fuck.

Dump him. That will confuse him. They aren't used to being dumped.