How to play a player

[Playingaplayer]

I’ve wasted a lot of time dating a man who hasn’t treated me properly. It’s taken me a while to see that he’s a player despite everything he says. I know now there is no future in any of it. What I’m interested in is how to play him at his own game in the short term. Not in terms of dating multiple men as that isn’t my style (if I met someone decent I would walk away from him) but in terms of how to treat him between meet ups and how to respond when he blows hot and cold.

Best thing is to be unavailable to him. He calls... you ignore. He texts ... you ignore.... then block him and disappear.

Or this might hit him hard... tell him you don't feel anything towards him ... you aren't attracted to him and you're moving on.

But...really ...just ignore and block him.

To "play" him would be making his waste his time thinking he's going to get what he wants but never actually give it to him.

Just like having an extra long conversation with a telemarketer and then saying actually I'm in not interested.

Don't do it. The best way to get your revenge is to show him that you are happy without him. Trust me. My ex cheated on me , they are not worth it.

The thing is unbiased, you’ve wasted your own time too in that extra long conversation. That’s why it’s better OP if you just end it.

It's one of those games where the only way to win is not to play. Seriously, don't waste your time and energy. Whatever you do, you absolutely will not create an epiphany and change him as a person.

The only way to win is by ghosting him without any reason or explanation. Nothing else will bother him because he doesn't care enough. At least ghosting has a chance of denying his ego. As a bonus, you can move on with your life.

Don't waste your time, he isn't worth it, been there and my pride made me hang on to him far too long, he really won't be worth it, honestly.

Exactly what Look said. The only thing he's arsed about is his ego.

Don't even dump him - ghosting was invented for people like this!

Satisfaction my arse, more like give him a taste of his own medicine in the stupid hope he will see the light and somehow be different. Yeah but you keep telling yourself that you’re now ‘playing the game’, if you’re still dancing to a tune you don’t particularly like, you’re still being played.

There’s a reason you’re still hanging around this guy and it ain’t enlightenment.

Sorry, but I agree with everyone else. You can’t play him because you care too much.

Don't waste your energy in revenge. Move on and go no contact - that's will be the biggest and nicest punishment that you can give him.

You said that you have wasted a lot of time on him. Why want to waste one minute longer by playing him? Use that time to find yourself a man who deserves your time.

You never get a wasted time back.