How do I get over cousin stealing money from me

[Selassi]

I'm not going to lie I am bitter over this and will be until I get the money back and revenge but I am trying so hard to not get revenge but it is so hard and it's eating me up

Especially since the whole family including my sister still talk to her and think she is justified because apparently I have "done horrible things to her" (I've done nothing)

I lived with her for a bit, borrowed her 3k and she went on to steal another 3k off me. I don't want to go into the story of how she got this money because it doesn't matter, I trusted her and she fucked me over.

Taking her to court is pointless because she is broke.

Do you have any stories of this happening?
I want to get over this but it is hard I have cut off my whole family over this because not one of them has spoken up for me minus my brother

Hasn’t she just taken back what you borrowed?

I have borrowed nothing from her. She lent her 3k and she stole another 3k off me

I lent her

This is, what, your third thread about this?

So I have lost 6k
On top of that helped her sister with food and money when she was broke and had nothing. When I stopped lending her money she cut me off she was using me the whole time and pretended she and her sister who stole off me where not in touch because she didn't agree with what she did

They all fucked me over including my own sister who has no loyalty

Thank you for your charming reply. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask why you are asking this yet again - what do you expect from this that you haven’t already got from the many other times you have asked?

Oh, the irony. I really think you need to step away from the internet - I don’t think rehashing the same 2 issues (I believe you are also the person who posts repeatedly about a neighbour?) over and over again is helpful to your mental health, from the sound of it.

Fenella she's not a troll I remember you posting about this before too

numpty the point I am trying to make is that repeatedly going over and over and over the same two things on mumsnet is probably not the best way to move forward.

You borrowed her £3k (borrowed off her?) - and then she took £3k so aren't you equal then?

Have you thought going on Judge Rinder? There's a maximum of £5,000 but the programme pay it instead of your sister so you'd get some of it back,

Fenella agreed - apologies that was supposed to read 'fenella is not a troll' in response to the OP's bridge comment !!

OP LENT her Cousin £3k then the cousin took another £3k ...

Not even going to bother replying to you anymore.

Jaime I didn't even know that I think I might thank you for suggesting that

for OP. calm the fuck down

borrowed her 3k and she went on to steal another 3k off me
The way you wrote this does make the situation unclear if you lent her the money not borrowed her money.

The OP lent £3k to the cousin, who then took another £3k and can't repay any of it.

OP. Your first post is very confusing and familiar. You posted about this before and your first post was also very confusing there as well.

As it stands, unless you're prepared to press charges, nothing will get done.

Even then, as you freely admit the first £3k was a loan, your cousin could argue that the second lump of money was also a loan and the court would have to give her the benefit of the doubt. If it got as far as court.

The fact that your family has taken your cousin's side in this, suggests that there is way more to this story than you've let on.

Have you tried counselling to get over it?

Does she admit to stealing?

Why is your own sister against you in this situation?

I feel there's more to this... for your sister not to be in your camp...inless thst relationship has issues.

I have not once belittled you. You seem very aggressive and fixated - if everyone is siding against you perhaps your aggression is why. You keep talking on this thread as though this has just happened but you’ve been posting repeatedly about this for months, so why do you want from another thread on the same topic that you didn’t get from all the previous threads? This is not an unreasonable question.

I'm pissed at my family thinking it is nothing I think this is why I am so hurt
There is not more to the story she claimed I have done horrible things to her but nobody has been able to tell me what.
She hit me, I left her house got my stuff.
I told people what she did to me.
And I cut her off haven't spoken to her since
She made it difficult for me to get my stuff and everything.
I don't get what I did to deserve this this is why it is so hard for me to get over

I agree with Fenella... you seem awfully aggressive.

Why is nobody on your side in the family?

This is the thing she admitted it.
My sister has never had loyalty to me, she said she is disgusted the cousin did this but then still talks to her.
My brother I haven't had a great relationship with for probably 20 years and he is the only one sticking up for me.

The police won't do anything I have put in a complaint but they claim it is civil