How close are you to your adult siblings?

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How close are you to your adult siblings?

I have two siblings. They are both decent people, I have nothing against them, but we are like chalk and cheese, very little in common. They also live a few hours away so I don't see them regularly, and when I do it is me who makes the effort 90% of the time.

One of my siblings has children, and I would like to see them more than I do, and when my child is born I would like it to have a relationship with its cousins. However this feels near enough impossible due to my sibling not living close by and also not making much effort. So maybe I need to accept defeat there.

DH has 3 siblings and isn't especially close to any of them. Again, they are not bad people, just very little in common and lead their own lives. Probably see them a few times a year at family events (DH's parents are quite keen on throwing family dinners etc).

I'm currently pregnant with our first child and, for various reasons, I am seriously thinking it will be an only child. Based on the fact DH and I aren't close to our own siblings, I am quite comfortable with this.

So I was just wondering, how close are most people to their siblings, in adulthood?

NC with all 7 of mine (I am the 6th of 8). Prior to my mother telling them to have no further contact with me, we had distant, awkward relationships with communication via my mother the gatekeeper, and we only met up at family events once or twice a year. It was all very competitive and as we had to make out we were all doing great, we couldn't be truthful with each other so there was no support for each other there. Makes me very sad how my mother raised us.

My 4 DC fight like cat and dog sometimes and will defend each other to the death at other times and I tell them that I want them to be able to rely on each other and to support each other when they're adults. They're all two halves of the same two people. I hope it gets through to them.

I'm really close to both my brother and my sister. I see them both every week as we all live a 5 minutes drive from one and other.
None of them have children yet but my children adore my brother and sister.