DC "Dad" has gone away for Xmas, no presents sent,not even a card!

[donners312]

Sorry just ranting!!
DC 13 and 11 'Father' has now gone away to warmer climes for the festive season and has not sent them so much as a card!

Said he will give them a present when he see's them next year!!

Unfrocking believable!

And only paid 50% of his CMS ordered maintenance - at christmas! Although often pays nothing.

Will have flown on holiday in at least business class and will be spending the next 3 weeks by the pool drinking beer with his girlfriend and her kids.

How can he call himself a Dad, not seen them since August and i wrote asking him to come and see them before xmas as well but bet he is telling everyone i won't let him see them.

I just don't get how his GF can fancy a man like that?

My exh is currently in Lapland with his other children - dd was not invited - he will see her and she will get to see her little brother and sister for around 20 mins Christmas day. These men are jokes.

That is disgusting!

His girlfriend will fancy him because he treats her well and probably doesn't share the fact that he neglects his kids and fails to support them with her. And yes, he probably tells her (and everyone else) that his bitter and twisted ex won't let him see his kids at Christmas.

Sorry - it's shit, isn't it?

it really is - I know you have to let it go but i literally feel like posting on FB what he has done so people know but I won't. Just moan on her instead. Just makes me so sick i am run ragged and overdrawn and he is living the highlife and treating his kids like shit. Its so sickening.

Why don't you put it on Facebook.....complete wanker that he is....hate men like that

Partly because i would feel sad for the children for everyone to know what a wanker their Dad is. I just don't get how he can treat them like this whilst sending messages like "i'm so proud of you love you so much etc" why doesn't he just leave them alone?

The biggest laugh is he actually took me to court so that he could have them for this christmas (not that i had said he couldn't) and then fucks off on holiday and won't take them as he "has already made his plans" and has left before schools break up anyway.

What am arsehole.
CMS is a joke.
Missed payments should result in hefty fines and then prison.

Thats so so sad - they might be too young to realise what a twat he is at the minute, but they will do when they're older.

Another one with an ex acting like a shit dad - who bullied me last year that he was having BOTH Christmas Day and NYE then announced a few weeks ago that he wanted 22nd-29th only.

When I said he committed to NYE he turned nasty on me.

Then came back with a blase message and confirmed 22nd-27th. When I said no, you said to the 29th (I've booked flights home and I won't be back before 29th), it all started again - I'm a f*cking princess etc

It's all in writing him asking for 22nd to 29th. 😂😂😂

Turns out he completely f*cked up the dates and has booked a holiday away with his girlfriend.

When I asked him how he could afford a holiday when he owes me 30k in child maintenance I was told it was "absolutely none of my fucking business".

How did I let that man impregnate me. Sometimes I feel like my vagina could physically vomit.

 to you both @donners312 and @LesisMiserable.

Jeepers Les how do you support your DD through that?

I honestly think that when someone owes you CM they should have their passports confiscated as these deadbeat arseholes always have plenty of money to go on holiday? Maybe we could go on holiday if they gave us the money they owe us?

Wouldn't mind so much but you are laking about the MINIMUM they owe us not any sort of meaningful contribution to bringing their children up.

'feel like my vagina could vomit" I love that!! ha ha ha

I honestly think that when someone owes you CM they should have their passports confiscated as these deadbeat arseholes always have plenty of money to go on holiday?

Where I am in the US, you can't renew your driver's licence if you own child maintenance. There are signs up all over the DMV telling you this.

I just don't understand why nothing is done in the UK.

It's not just that but he doesn't even come to see them - it's christmas!!

And if he is not interested (which he doesn't appear to be) then why doesn't he just leave them alone instead of making stupid promises and telling lies to them? Like he won't be ignored. He has even asked them t send him a christmas card? But hasn't sent them one?

OMG! I've just been talking about this subject today. How can do called fathers behave like this and then act the victim.
No maintenance from my sons father- arrears, not had any contact for over a year, but playing happy families with his new wife and I'm the baddie! Even his parents, who know the real story, because my son spoke to them, have cut contact- but it's all over FB, them giving their "step children" presents. I rage for my son but it makes me so sad for him.

What a fucking joke these men are. My DCs deadbeat has completely abandoned them now and pays no maintenance. This was after disappearing for 2 years and I stupidly agreed he could see them again when he came back. He lasted 1 year before he fucked off again, the reason he told me was...he was 'too tired' at weekends to see them and he couldn't commit to anything until he checked his girlfriends calender.

They're just back from Las Vegas, they also had 3 other holidays earlier in the year. His family don't even ring or text about the DC. I've spent months mopping up their tears again, no more. They're better of without these arseholes.

It should be like Belgium. Don’t pay your maintenance, your name and photo goes in the paper.

His GF must see for herself that he hasn’t seen them since August.

This was my dad.
He got away with it with wife #2 and #3 because he said that he was always trying to phone and writing but that we never replied. Not true. It would go years without us hearing from him. Never any maintenance. And he used to blame my mother (wife #2 told me after he left her for #3).

Anyhoo. Got to 17 and went NC. Still NC years or so later. And I really could not care less.

The only thing that annoys me is when some well meaning meddler asks me if I won’t regret it when he dies. No I bloody won’t. He’ll never meet his grandchildren and that’s his fault. His total loss.

I hope he regrets it on his death bed, but probably not because he’s too self absorbed.

*30 years later

Air that’s shocking and I totally don’t blame you for being NC and you’re right, he’s the one who is missing out.

Thanks for sharing that Air, I really hope my DC have your sense. My worst nightmare is that they bother with him when they are older, he will want them then as they will have money themselves etc

His GF sadly has the nickname Mad Mary (not her real name but you get the drift) and my own personal dealings with her would back that up, she's totally nuts. I have told her exactly what he is like but she seems to believe his rhetoric and lies and TBH I think they are both very well suited, both horrible people (long story but i have posted about it all before - won't bore you)

@donners312

So much unnecessary shite still - I am out of words!