DC "Dad" has gone away for Xmas, no presents sent,not even a card!

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Sorry just ranting!!
DC 13 and 11 'Father' has now gone away to warmer climes for the festive season and has not sent them so much as a card!

Said he will give them a present when he see's them next year!!

Unfrocking believable!

And only paid 50% of his CMS ordered maintenance - at christmas! Although often pays nothing.

Will have flown on holiday in at least business class and will be spending the next 3 weeks by the pool drinking beer with his girlfriend and her kids.

How can he call himself a Dad, not seen them since August and i wrote asking him to come and see them before xmas as well but bet he is telling everyone i won't let him see them.

Thanks Greenbelt - hope things are a bit better with you?

I'd totally post how much of a shit he is on FB.

My father is a horrible shit. Abandoned my brother and I when we were babies. Didn't want to pay child maintenance. He refuses to have anything to do with us. Last time i saw him was my grandfather's funeral and he wouldn't even look at us. He's got a wife and two other kids who have everything.

He's a policeman. I thought he was retired but he stayed on after retirement. An upstanding pillar of the community that won't even acknowledge his other kids.

My mum has never been openly shaming towards him. I wish she had but he probably threatened her or something. I wrote to him when I was in my twenties asking to talk.

He told me to go away. I guess I got my answer.

I hope your kids never have to deal with their father again. He is clearly a selfish prick.

Thanks Laudanum - i like to hear how adult children deal with these types of Dads. Do you feel anything for your Dad? Do you care?

I have had friends say 'don't be bitter' etc but its hard not to be angry so it sounds like your mum did the right thing, looked after you and remained dignified. Hats off to you and your mum!!

I wish my Ex would leave them alone but he is always threatening me and messages DD to say how he loves her so much and is always there for her etc so its very difficult as his words just don't match his action. i prat the DC can see that.

I have a deep loathing for him. He is a also a horribly petty individual and homophobic too. I may elaborate later when I'm on a larger keyboard. I basically DREAM of outing him for the scum he is.

Nothing to add but to say these men are utter slimeballs and yes, it's amazing how there is always money for a holiday or 3. How do they look in the mirror

Sympathy from me, I completely understand, my children’s dad dodged child support very successfully, he paid nothing, bought a property overseas, cash, that should have been the child support money and I live in eternal debt and worry about how to make ends meet, I don’t know if karma ever catches up with these people, they seem to sail through life

The reason the law is so pathetic is that the majority of politicians (MPs) are men!

I think

These fathers should be fucking well locked up.
The amount I've paid in therapy for DD probably outweighs any maintenance I've received, but was essential both at the time and as a preventive (I hope) measure against any future problems in life she will have, because of having a total fuckwit of a father messing with her head. These clowns are dangerous. But they have no inkling or care.

Thats the whole problem they really do not care! My DD has a cams referral, is seeing a private counsellor (costs ££££) and is waiting for a GP appointment. And like you say could her 'D:F give a toss?

Sorry your DD not feeling happy either.

Sorry to al of you going through the same. Hard to let it go isn't it

I have no feelings towards my father at all.
And he was a very good dad until my parents divorced when I was 8. I was definitely his princess until then.

I basically feel nothing and he is a stranger.

Has it affected me? I think I am probably quite a cold person and don't form deep attachments to anyone. Except my children, and my husband to an extent. I can cut people off quite easily. But maybe I was like that anyway.

Airbiscuits reading that I would say it affected you pretty badly And there's me thinking that it's better the dfs clear off completely but as I've said before all divorce messes with you but even more than that I think a lot of parenting messes with you full stop

I hope you've had counselling