NC’d as I don’t want to be identified by my --judgemental lovely friends and like a coward would rather gather some consensus before being flamed IRL.
Without going into too much detail after my divorce I met a man who I fell head over heels in love with. It was initially a lovely relationship and we spoke about having children and getting married.
He ghosted me after 6 months and I later found out he was dating someone else.
Like an idiot I kept taking him back and he continued to leave me and come back. This had a detrimental effect on my health and probably my children’s well-being actually. I can’t mention his name without friends and family bristling.
I have spoken to others, including my therapist and they have used words such as ‘love bombed’, gas lighting’, ‘sociopath’ and ‘narcissist’ to describe him.
One day I woke up and thought “blimey, you’ve got to break this cycle”. I starting dating a guy who I really liked, I was cautious at first and didn’t let my walls down for quite some time. My children were eager to meet him and he now feels like part of the family.
We’ve been together 7 months and he’s made me happy but my ex boyfriend with whom I’ve been almost NC with for the last 7 months has dragged me back into his life and I’ve found myself meeting him for coffee, walks and drinks.
On the surface he alleges that he just needs a friend, he’s going through a tough time at the moment so I have offered my support but then he stole a kiss this week and professed his undying love for me and I feel so confused because I think I might still love him.
The worst thing in all of this is that I’ve lied to my guy about where I’ve been over the last few weeks.
Feeling very ashamed and confused. Please someone talk some sense into me.