Fed up with dh's lack of support

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I have started trying to lose weight but all dh can do is moan about how much I'm going to the gym and that when we move I won't be able to go (even though I have to pay for it til the end of August) and that I'm spending too much on food for me but he won't eat the food I want to and everything he has isn't suitable for my diet.
I feel like he doesn't want me to lose the weight and feel better about myself even though he does at times make comments about my size. I feel like just walking out at the moment as he has just complained about me looking at dresses for a dinner dance I am going to next week but instead I'll have to throw some clothes together from my wardrobe and look drab again

oh dear

sorry you are having a horrible time

if he won;t eat the food you make, then he can make his own , no?

DH is doing a no carb detox thing, so he is cooking his own dinner, and taking lunch to work , that he prepares...

does he not want you to lose weight ?

if he doesn;t want you to go to the gym , what does he want you to do?

How much weight do you want to lose and what size are you?

I bet we could find you a dress without spending a fortune!

Dh sounds jealous to me.

I don't know
Sit in and do nothing I expect.
if he was left to cook his own dinner he would have cheese toasties or crackers all the time
I don't know if he wants me to lose weight or not but I want to and need to as I look terrible

you want to lose weight and feel better, and that is the main thing, wonder why he does not want to support you ? maybe because it means him fending for himself a bit while you do your own thing?

I'm about a 22
I found this but dh is off on one about money and how much extra the salad stuff costs

gosh, it's only £20 ! Lidl does cheap fruit and veg, as does Aldi, tesco do 5 half price fruit and veg every week, and asda have had offers on of ready prepared fruit for £1 a box ! so it isn;t that expensive !!

I know it's not that expensive but try telling him that!

Do you know the name of the website that compares the price of shopping for different online shops?

mysupermarket.com i think ......

He should be encouraging you. Anyway if you eat less it tends to be cheaper and veg etc is some of the cheapest food there is. He should be cooking for you not vice versa.

Are you doing a specific diet or just eating sensibly?
Surely he eats fruit,veg and salad or is he the kind that believes he can get away with crap eating habits and never suffer.
If latter he's in for a shock as he gets older.Stick with your choice to be healthy.

I'm assuming that his comments about your size aren't complimentary?

He is afraid you will run off with someone better than him if you are thinner.

Thwack him about the head with a Weightwatchers magazine and cry,

"FFS arsehole, I fkin love you, twat!"

Seriously, point out the comments he has made and tell him how that has made you feel and that's why you're going to the gym. Bang on about long term health benefits and setting examples to your dcs.

Then buy him a 'Meals for One' cookbook.

PS Buy dress, you will look fab.

yes I'm doing weightwatchers so could probably eat the things he would but I'm fed up of that and want to eat more fruit and veg - I have had salads nearly everyday for the last 2 weeks. he won't eat much veg once a week if I'm lucky he was off sick the other day with a dodgy tummy and blamed me for feeding him cabbage

listen to WT

Buy the dress! It's fab - if you don't I will!!

I would just ignore your DH tbh. Cook him what he wants sometimes - the rest of the time he can fend for himself. Other times just give him what you are having - if he doesn't eat it - tough.

Markets tend to be cheaper for fruit and veg so maybe try that if poss.

THink I am going to get it and have it delivered to my parents but I won't be able to try it on until the day of the dinner dance and worry it won't look right

Excellent plan.

When he's sees you in it, say,

"Everyone will fancy me now. You'd better gaze adoringly at me all night, or everyone will think you're gay. And fat."

OK, I'm just being facetious now... sorry.

Seriously - losing weight hard enough without whatever the opposite of husbandly support is called - bullying, I think.

You are doing marvellously, well done, and please post best weight loss tips for me to read as soon as I've finished this here stack of doughnuts.

If he really p's you off then just tell him that when he's in hospital having his arteries unblocked you'll still be having a great time playing with the grandkids

lol wt
dh isn't going to be with me at the dinner dance! he is an unsociable git and I'll have more fun without him there
So he wouldn't actually know I had the dress at all!!
I'm still getting used to the diet myself! just am keeping to the points system of weightwatchers and swimming & exercising lots!
Give us one of your doughnuts!

Doughnuts gone at 11:44:18.

Alas.

Now I will have a salad.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahaha

I will join you with the salad then!
I'm waiting for my Mum tall call me back about the dress!

Just to update you I won the dress! Just hope it fits and looks ok!

Hoorah for winning the dress. HOpe it looks fab.

(still laughing at my hilarious 'I will have a salad' joke here)

lol wt!
the trouble is I did have a salad!!!
I may if I'm feeling brave post a pic of me in it after I've worn it!
I'll have to leave my house wearing what dh thinks I'm wearing so will have a back up!
I have now proved a point with the cost of healthy food!

Leave the house in a big coat and a big hat and a mask to cover your make up.

Or perhaps this.

Just until you're out of sight, you understand. Hope you've shed a stone by then.