I've nc for this one.
My dp threw juice in my face. Last night we argued, it was a follow of from the argument the day before.
The day before our kitchen flooded, I was up with the baby, I woke dp up at 10am when it started he got up I phoned the landlord. All the while I was the one putting buckets of water outside, talking to the landlord and looking after the baby while he just ranted about all the water (did nothing about it just moaned his face off). I got sick of it and told him he needed to start helping me out. I was stressed the baby has had bad colic and reflux so has been extra needy, screaming, crying fighting his sleep constantly and needing cuddles all the time. We ended up arguing again and he went to bed. This was at 2pm. So he left me to deal with everything all day. I was exhausted I'd been up most of the night with the baby, he knew this. He eventually got up at 7pm saying he was going to the gym with his friends. The plumber hadn't come out yet and it was the babys bed time. I was livid! I asked him not to go to the gym and stay and deal with the plumber as I needed To go to bed with the baby (we co sleep and it's difficult to sneek away lately with the colic and reflux) he said no he was going and I'd have to just deal with it. I'm not proud but I lost it (baby wasn't around, was in the bedroom). I said he was being selfish when I needed him to step up he crawled into bed and now fucking off to the gym. He said he didnt care and he was going. I had to walk away.
Got the baby to sleep, the plumber came around 8ish he was thankfully still here so dealt with it but of course let me know how pissed off he was that he had to stay behind whe he should have left. He the tried to make up with me, I said I was too angry, the then said fuck you and went to the gym, I went to bed.
Turns out the problem was a blocked pipe and the water coming up through the sink was the neighbours.
The neighbour came to the door with her brother in law who was a "plumber" so I spent about an hour and a half with them while the brother in llaw pissed about out the back with the pipe only to come up with the same conclusion the plumber had. I was exhausted they woke the baby up I had to spend about another hour getting the baby off to sleep I finally got to sleep at about midnight.
Dp was working early yesterday so had the morning again with the baby, waiting on the plumber and trying to explain the situation to the neighbour. Dp came home and expected everythig to be fine. I've never been so angry with him. We argued, I got the baby off to nap finally. Went back to the livingroom, we argued some more he then opened my Christmas present he got me (a ring) and threw it in my face saying he didn't want me to have it so I put it in the waste paper bin (childish I know) he went ballistic tried to grab my phone out my hand to break it when he couldn't get it he threw juice from a glass on the table in my face. It went up the walls I was soaked. He then proceeded to call me all sorts and tell me how fat and disgusting he thought I was how I was shit mum how shit I am at doing everything the list goes on.
There's more but I'm too drained. I want to leave him but we are tied into this joint tenancy until October next year. I feel so stuck and don't know what To Do.
No one needs to point out the arguing isn't good for the baby, I know. It stresses me out but he's not around for most of it and when he is we don't shout ect.
I don't know what I'm looking for, maybe just to vent. I know the advice will be to leave, to contact womans aid ECT. But I can't leave so maybe I need to vent. I don't want to talk to anyone in rl about it all they think he's great, he used to be but lately the past 6 or so months he's a different person. A horrible one.