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Why do some men get angry when you finish with them?

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lottieandmia22 · 12/12/2017 10:22

This has happened to me quite a lot. Not every time but it’s noticeable. They seem to want to say I’m the problem not them. They ask why and don’t want to hear why. And they throw my Autism in my face as if I’m not going to find anyone else because I have autism. Why would anyone want to be with someone who doesn’t like them? My mum always says ‘oh well yes he would be angry’. I actually don’t think this is right.

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lottieandmia22 · 13/12/2017 16:48

Exactly Charis. I would be sad if I was dumped but I wouldn't try to convince the man that it's his fault it wasn't working.

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lottieandmia22 · 13/12/2017 16:49

This guy is still stalking my Instagram so obviously his problem.

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LesisMiserable · 13/12/2017 18:33

Stalking your instagram? How old are you lottie? This is the kind of thing my 15 year old talks about. You finished it, so block him if it bothers you and have done? Or are you secretly enjoying the attention still... 😏

Notreallyarsed · 13/12/2017 18:36

You don't like it when they criticise your Autism ,they don't like it when you reject their personality

Right, so being a disablist prick who is offensive to a woman who has had the temerity to ditch him is the same as leaving a relationship that isn’t working? I’ve fucking heard it all now! (And yes, I’m autistic, which by the way, I can’t change or do anything about!)

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lottieandmia22 · 13/12/2017 21:56

I'm 37! No I'm not enjoying the attention- I saw that he had looked at my video so now I've made my account private.

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lottieandmia22 · 13/12/2017 21:57

Don't worry about it NotReallyArsed - I think that was a troll Thanks

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LesisMiserable · 14/12/2017 06:28

All sorted then. Next! 😊

ReanimatedSGB · 15/12/2017 13:08

I would also add that I don't like the stuff that sometimes shows up on MN when a man dumps a woman and she posts about being sad over the end of the relationship - and suddenly all these posters are suggesting she cuts up his clothes, tells everyone what a bastard she is, refuses to let him see the DC etc. Anyone who tries to punish a partner for calling a halt to a relationship is a twat - and taking 'revenge' invariably makes everyone else think how right that partner was to get away from you...

BestZebbie · 15/12/2017 13:12

Being dumped is a dominance challenge, you are being personally rejected by another person, who is thus publicly demonstrating that you hold no power over them. The usual reaction to a dominance challenge is anger.

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lottieandmia22 · 15/12/2017 15:33

Everyone gets rejected at various times. Most of us have been rejected early on in a dating process. Who wants to be with someone who's not really into them? :/

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