In love with my ex, any chance we will get back together?

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I broke up with my bf 6 months ago as my life had some issues I needed to sort. We had been together on and off(due to my issues) for 2 years. 5 months ago my ex wanted to see me again and even asked me to be his gf, however a week later he decided he didn’t want to get back together because nothing had changed and I still had the issues I wanted to sort out.
For 4 months we had zero contact. I messaged him the other week to ask if he wanted to meet up for a cuppa to be friends. He said sorry but didn’t think that was a good idea, he is seeing someone. He then went on to ask how me and my kids are and asking how life is. We texted for 2 hours. I said out of respect for his gf I won’t message him but he knows how to contact me.
I feel he is the man for me. Is this it or is there hope he still has feelings for me? He said he didn’t hate me and he thought I might have hated him but I said I don’t.
I really miss him and love him. He’s on my mind every day.
I’m not in a position to move on at the moment and no desire to either as still love my ex.
Any chance we will ever be together again??

Offred I am pleased to hear you are happy and love yourself. A lot of people can't say that about themselves so that's a huge achievement in life to feel that way.

In the moment look after yourself,navigate the storm,eat well, and don’t dwell on what ifs

I’m a hopeless romantic so I’m on the ‘never say never’ train - if it’s meant to be it will be BUT in the meantime you should focus on you and your kids, be the very best version of you so that if he does come knocking you will be in the best possible place to decide if being back with your ex is really what you want. Good luck rebuilding your family 💐

Your focus needs to be about your children & yourself. He’s not interested in you, he’s moved on.

The family situation sounds terrible and your approach sounds high risk and unlikely to achieve the ongoing contact with your family that you understandably want.

Is the counselling from someone in the religion? If so suggest additionally or alternatively getting counselling from someone BACP registered.

Think you need to accept that your ex has gone. Imagine v few men from “outside” would be willing to be in a relationship given the circumstances- you seeking/prioritising relationships with and being financially involved with your “family of origin” who have treated you so badly.

Mouseville65 thank you I have the same approach in life so thank you for your input.
Dozer I'm having counselling with a registered counsellor with no connection to the religion or anyone I know.
I'm not sure I fully understand what you mean about a guy not wanting to be involved with me?
If you could explain more that would be great.
I appreciate everyone's input

Many people wouldn’t want to date someone who was considering returning to live near or with a family with hardcore religious beliefs such that a family member may be cut out should they not comply, and complying with a religion they actually really wanted to leave, for an unspecified amount of time, in the hope of maintaining contact with the family. And being financially embroiled with the family.

It’s very heavy stuff. Much more chance of finding a relationship, if that’s what you want, once you are living independently, with or without contact with your family (due to the family’s unreasonable behaviour).

Thank you for clarifying Dozer.
At the moment in my situation and living near my family I am unable to pursue a relationship with anyone. I have 6 months to go until I will be in a better position.

Yes, once you’re financially independent, working and living further away from the family some things could be a bit easier.

You also need a plan for what to do for yourself if, as seems likely, your family reject you again, eg because of your dating or religious choices.

You're right having a plan is crucial. I have plans to help me avoid getting in a similar position as before, to break away from the religion.
I understand my family will probably never be fully happy with my life choices, finding someone who loves me for me and have my own family unit again will be my happiness.
When my circumstances are ideal and less issues to deal with in a relationship

Oh OP - I feel bad for you - you are in love with someone who has moved on from the relationship. I do think you need to try and move on too - its not healthy for you and your mind to keep thinking of him, especially so as he is with someone else. Its not fair on her. Imagine yourself in her shoes - would you like your BF talking to an ex-gf who still had feelings for? He probably talks to you because you are a dear friend who he once had feelings for - he probably still cares for you, but potentially not in the way you want. Clinging on to the hope he still is in love with you when he might not be will set you up to be more heartbroken in the future.

Focus on the children and yourself (which I'm sure you're doing) - and leave him to carry on with this new relationship. In time, you will move on too. Good luck.

Thank you.
Just to make it clear I am not in contact with my ex. We had 4 months of no contact at all, I then messaged him to see if he wanted to be friends, at that point I was unaware he was seeing someone.
I respected that he wouldn't want to meet up as he was seeing someone, however my ex continued texting me for two hours asking me lots of questions about my life. I numerous times tried to end the conversation as didn't want to be seem needy or some such but he kept talking to me.
We are now not texting each other and I have no plans to message him as I respect he is with someone else.