Didn’t do as I asked?

[Nopeno]

I was very drunk recently and had a ONS. It’s someone I sort of know, both single. He’d asked a while ago and I’d said no, so knew he may try it on again.

Drunk enough to think fuck it why not.

Anyway I had condoms and the first time told him where they were, must be used and off we went. Through the night I was drifting in and out of drunken slumber and we had sex a few more times.

He left early hours and I woke to a text suggesting I got the morning after. Checked the bin and there were not enough condoms used for the amount we did.

I had sporadically checked verbally he had the pack so I think it’s not really fair I now have had to fuck with my hormones to take the pill and have a trip to a clinic I have NEVER been to in my future with an underlying fear I could have caught anything!

Not on right? I just am feeling increasingly pissed off.

MrsDilber I actively asked 3 times, was asleep when others started 🤦🏼‍♀️ No period, just blood, still no idea why.

I’m going to read up on stealthing so not a derail thank you.

A sleeping person can't consent, can they? And consent is conditional - consenting to one thing (sex with a condom) doesn't mean one has consented to sex without a condom or sex while asleep.

I think his behaviour has been awful. You made it clear you wanted him to use a condom, and he didn't do so. I don't think you should have had to ask on every separate occasion - one can assume that, on the same night, a woman who wants a condom used the first time wants it used the third as well.

Said it before and i will say it again...guys if your with a woman and she has been drinking, think very carefully and keep it in your pants

Or just dont be a rapist and ensure there is clear consent

Do i detect some slightly cynical responses to my contribution? I am perhaps out of step with some modern men but if I am with a woman i do not have a great priority to get her in bed. Far from it.

I would certainly not even think of trying to initiate sex with a drunken woman and not with someone whom i had just met.

So yes, my comment was well intentioned and good advice for all men.

I have been a juror in a rape case than ran for near a week and again it was the typical just met,night out,alcohol scenario. (Not guilty M'lud).

TDH Then I apologise - and I agree with you.