I can’t loose momentum, I need to end this

[Nevergiveupdreaming]

Crappy DH
Possibly abusive or definitely in the past.
I know I need to leave after this morning but I want to wait until after Xmas.
Help me not loose momentum

It’s your name on the rental and he has a place to go to. Not getting the other rental property doesn’t mean that you need to stay in the relationship?

Moving would have cost fees, use that money to treat the kids in the new year once he is out??

What are you plans for new year? Could you take the kids somewhere while he moves out?

I think I would have snapped about his moody childish behaviour with comments that no one wants there, he is right, no one does and I think thatI would have said so

One minute I think I’m making a mistake and if he simply went on a parenting program all our problems would go away.
Then I realise ...
•he doesn’t give a shit about me or our family.
•He leaves to go to work at 7.30am, finishes work at 6.00pm and instead of coming home he goes to the flat to “work” ( as far as I can see all the work is done there
•he comes home around 8.30 when all kids are in bed
•he then watches tv and goes to bed
•he stays asleep all night then gets up gets dressed, takes the dog round the block and goes to work.

I work 3 days per week and go to uni the other 2. I get up at 5.30/6.00am, do breakfast, dress little dc, make packed lunches, tidy round, leave at 8.00 drop off at nursery and 2 schools then get to work / uni. I pick up dc from nursery and family around 5ish, get home around 5.30, cook dinner, clean up, do reading books/homework, bath dc’s 3&4 do bedtime routine. Sit down around 8.00pm and do my assignments etc. I then get out of bed at least 1 time normally more every night to see to dc with coughs, bad dreams or whatever else then it all starts again!

I don’t need him!