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facing the prospect of single parenthood and don't know what to do or where to go from here....

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lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 09:40

DH has walked out and I am left with 3 kids on my own. I don't know what to do or where to go next. My whole world is falling apart. I am still in our rented flat for now but its in his name.....i know he will want me to leave here cos he has asked me to before when we were having a bad patch. He said last night that I might as well go back to my home town now......Im so upset, angry and confused.

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littlemissbossy · 22/07/2004 11:39

lmof3, sorry to hear this news. Don't worry about paying for a solicitor, just contact the nearest Citizen Advice Bureau who offer free and confidential advice, look on their website for details www.citizensadvice.org.uk. Take care of yourself lmbx

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lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 12:38

thank you everyone....i have so much.....too much....to think about

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MeanBean · 22/07/2004 14:19

lm3, don't bother phoning your landlord yet - s/he doesn't need to know you're paying the rent with HB, and it might cause problems you don't need just yet.

Caribbeanqueen · 22/07/2004 14:42

Are you OK lmo3?

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lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 15:25

i think so

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Beetroot · 22/07/2004 15:28

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lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 15:38

he is coming round after work to take me shopping...will take it from there

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lonelymumof3 · 22/07/2004 17:21

i dont think i will tell my landlord as he is the sort to get funny about it all

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gothicmama · 22/07/2004 17:25

don't mention it to landlord yet check out the CAB first and get fiancial help sorted and on to housing list even if you want to move it will help .

ggglimpopo · 22/07/2004 19:00

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gettingthere · 22/07/2004 20:34

lm - i am so sorry that this has happened to you. i also have 3 children and have been on my own now for 18 months. it is difficult, and right now it must seem impossible, but you will get through this. I understand you don't have family locally, but i hope you will feel able to post all your thoughts here, or to make contact. I am a long way from you, but would be very happy to listen if that would help. Please believe things will get better - its probably hard to see that right now. big hugs.

nightowl · 23/07/2004 02:54

lonelymum, so sorry you are going through this right now. it really is hard when eveything seems to have come crashing down but now is the time you really need to get legal help as others have said. cab first i would imagine is your best bet, they will help you get your head around what needs to be done. its so hard to think about the practicalities when you're feeling crushed but it will help you in the long run. hope things get better for you soon xx

gothicmama · 23/07/2004 07:19

Morning LMO3 how are you this morning ?

Caribbeanqueen · 23/07/2004 08:55

How did you get on with dh last night lmo3?

Piffleoffagus · 23/07/2004 09:01

thinking about you too lmo3
xx

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lonelymumof3 · 23/07/2004 09:48

he was going to take me shopping but when he got here he said he had been pulled over by the police for having defective tail lights, so didnt want to go out in the car again at night til it was fixed, which i suppose is fair enough.

He did stay the night (but not together) and although we talked a bit, still nothing seems to be sorted.

I havent slept for ages and my head is frazzled. I dont know what to do.

He left for work this morning and said that if it was ok with me he would come back tonight and we would try and talk again. I said ok but purely because i need to know whats happening one way or another, for the sake of the children if nothing else.

Maybe by the end of the weekend, we will know one way or another. I would like to go to the next sale tomorrow so i think i will ask him to have the kids while i go. Might do him good to see what he would be missing with the kids? I dont know if its a good idea or not.

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Piffleoffagus · 23/07/2004 10:03

I think that he is there and trying to front up might be a good thing, I hope it is not too tough on you talking deeply about everything.
Try hard to stay calm if you can...
big hugs xx

lemonade · 23/07/2004 13:04

lmo3 - I've been thinking of you. I hope that you get a chance to talk tonight and sort some things out. Good luck. Take care. l xx

lemonade · 23/07/2004 20:49

lmo3 - I hope you're okay. Thinking of you. l xx

gettingthere · 23/07/2004 22:21

lm - hope you are managing ok - thinking of you. xx

bobs · 23/07/2004 23:59

Followed this thread from DWYSL2 - sorry to hear of your troubles lmo3. However wonderful kids are, they can be a real handful when young and you might find that dh just can't cope. I got all sorts of blame from my dh - not paying him enough attention etc and just felt run-arse ragged all the time - its really tough.
hope you sort things out - therwise there's a whole load of advice readily available on this site.
Take care

nikcola · 24/07/2004 00:10

hi lonelymumof3, ive just read this thread i hope your ok hugs xxxx nikki xxxxx

Caribbeanqueen · 25/07/2004 20:32

How did the weekend go lmo3?

lemonade · 25/07/2004 20:57

lmo3 - How are you? Thinking of you. l xx

mummytosteven · 26/07/2004 01:09

Hi LMO3 - also been wondering how you are doing. back from London now so should be making up for lost time on MN/MSN now(!)

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