I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we have lived together for 5 years. We have finally just bought our first place together (a flat) and today got notified that our move in date will be the 14th December.
I'm so excited, but he just seems completely disinterested. I asked earlier in the week what weekend he would be free to move or if he could get a day off work for the move and he said "there's no point thinking about it until we get a completion date". Now that we have a completion date I asked if he could book a van for that weekend and he says he's got a night out to go to so he will be hungover that weekend and is too busy to book a van right now.
He's shown absolutely no interest in choosing furnishings for the flat or anything like that, so I've been trying to do everything myself. We have been living at his parents for 3 weeks whilst we waited for our completion date and whilst I am very grateful to them, I have begun to find it a strain because I miss having my own space and being able to do as I please. He doesn't seem to notice this and is frequently out drinking after work, leaving me on my own at his parents.
All of that I have just accepted and got on with without complaint. But now I just feel completely disheartened that a night out drinking is more important to him than moving into our first real home together. Surely any loving man would set aside the time to make the move but he's acting grumpy about it? He's the same about anything we do together - he's not bothered about holidays and has no opinion on where we should go and makes me feel like I'm dragging him along.
He's the kind of man who walks off in front and doesn't look back to check that I'm even still there. He's let me go to Ikea before (because he couldn't be bothered to go with me) to pick up furniture that was heavy so I had to ask strangers in the car park to help me get it in my car. He doesn't carry my bags or hold my hand when we are out. He doesn't ever tell me he loves me. Together 6 years and not engaged.
I have been in this relationship and treated this way for so long that I wonder if I've forgotten how I should actually be treated? I always wonder if I'm over-reacting. I love him and we get on really well and he makes me laugh a lot. I just feel sad right now.