Me and my husband have had a lovely marriage of 3 years (together 5). We have a 5 month old little baby and obviously it has shaken things up! I'm very lucky to not have to work at the moment as we can afford rent from my DH salary. But before the baby was born i was extremely career driven, working abroad and long hours self employed .
I love my baby and im very aware i can no longer do a job with such crazy hours/travel (especially as our baby has needed to go to the hospital often and exclusive breastfed / trying to bottle expressed milk). I know eventually I csn go back to something resembling my job but it was such a big part of me that i know i must give up ... I also havent seem anyone friend wise in months because hospital baby means I cannot go too far from home (many friends are too far for baby to go) and my body (can't go to the gym because he won't be on his own with her see bellow )
My problem at the moment is that my husband just doesn't understand how much of me as a person I'm giving up for the baby. He works hard at work to provide for us but the minute I ask him to do something for the baby that means he gives up something he gets really pissed off. I am very understanding that he's tired and Greatful for how hard he works but he's the same.with even the tiniest things.
For example: he gets really huffy about holding her if I want a 3 minute shower in the evening after her screaming all day. Because he wants to relax and have a quiet evening
Bigger example: he refuses to spend time on his own with her because he want s to relax in his spare time. Hs fine when I'm. Around but I have to be there...
Any advice on how to approach him about this how I'm feeling without sounding like I'm. Constantly nagging or that I don't appreciate him? XxxX
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DH doesn't understand sacrifices
Leslieknope123 · 29/11/2017 17:56
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