I really fancy this man! He's said the same! Do his 'sexting' attempts indicate he just wants a shag?

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Hi all
I've Namechanged for this
I'm in my early 40s & happily single with a very busy life.
Met a guy randomly who was doing some work for me.
Gorgeous. Connection. Texts started to not be anything about the work....
V complimentary & quite lovely to receive. He's asked me out but since I said yes his texts are basically along the lines of my arse/feeling horny/etx
I don't know how to answer!!!!Obviously not planning on marrying him but quite soon for sexting (only met him 3 times) or is it too early?
I've been out of 'the game' for a while and now wondering if he's just after a shag!?! Any advice welcome !!!

Yes. Getting sexual over text with someone you don't know that well sounds like he's trying to assess whether you are up for it.

A nice guy would at least want to date you a bit first. But, if you want a FWB, it sounds like he'd fit the bill!

He definitely wants a shag! If you want more than that then suggest meeting somewhere public in daytime, no alcohol and see how it goes.

He probably is after a shag, most men are. But, if you are both single and fancy each other why not?

Just be careful and TAKE PRECAUTIONS!!!

He wants a shag

Shag

He's clearly sussing you out to see if you are up to shagging on first date.
I find it a bit 'Ewwww' that as soon as you said yes to the date , he moves his texts up a gear to sexual rather than being lovely/complimentary.

I think it’s sex he’s after. Nothing wrong with that if you’re on the same hymn sheet

Ha! Thought as much 😉
To be honest I don't have the time & headspace for a relationship so maybe I need to just have some fun!
It's been flippin ages!!!!!

How long?

A year.

Shag

But if you're single/he's single....Go mingle! 😆

Gonna mingle I decided.... 😉
But now the texts have gone kinda 'tell me more about you?' & disclosing a couple of his vulnerabilities .........

A year is a long time

Inappropriate sexts would put me right off tbh.

Some people like it.

He sounds really sleazy. Stay well away!

Now dh and I had zero sexting before our first date, he was respectful to the last...we s*ged each other's brains out on the first date though 😂 I'd say the only problem with sexting before meeting is that expectations then might not be met. But single, horny? Why not??!

God I would hate the sexting
If it was me I would blank totally
But if you like it, go for it!!!!

If you like it then do it and if it helps you get what you need or want

Sexting before shagging is not a good idea.

Have you had a bad experience

I'd find it too much if I didn't know him before. Of you knew him for a while as acquaintances and suddenly there was a mutual acknowledgement of 'hey, you are hot, shall we go out somewhere' then I think sexting in that context may be ok. From a standing start... nope. Too much too soon, I'd worry he just saw me as an object.

Yes. And so do yours.

What ever makes you happy 😊

What did you end up doing