he became addicted to an online RP game - a whole world - rather like mumsnet where he made friends and talked on MSN to people from allover the world.
the tropuble with all over the world is ..the time difference.
so he would get up at 4.30 5am play the game until he went to work - and there was a period of time where one contract was ending that he didnt have to go to work - so he played all day.
then he played all night.
no time for me or the kids who are teenangers - we all acted like we were three trying to get his attention.
this carried on for 2 years - iposted on here about it. years of getting 3 ,4, or if your lucky 5 hours sleep means that you are irritable.
it wasnt a hobby it was an obsession.
and i've never written this next bit on here in my own name before.
we went out - we usually do about 2 times a month if e are lucky. in december.
i didn't drink much becuase i had been out on a previous night and i cant do two nights in a row.
we came back and had an almighty argument - which ended up with him strangling me on the setee.
we talked about it the next day - he couldnt remember. there wsa no big apology and he didn't even try to amend his behaviour by way of an apology.
we went out the next week same thing happened - we had a row and then he pulled me round the house by my hair and told me repeatedly it was his house and i was to get out.
the only thing that stopped him was that i said to him as he was dragging me by my hair - that my son and his girlfriend was upstairs and if girlfirends dad finds ut whats been going on ith his daughter here he will come down with his mates and rip dh a new arsehole.
that was a satuday. by sunday i was planning to leave - i packed everythng - he came in whilst i was packing and i said i was just putting things away for storage - but we both knew what i was doing.
monday i went to the town council housing dept and told them what went on.
i got a place in a womens refuge. my oldest son who is 17 wasn't alowed to come becuase he was over 16
they wouldnt tell me where it was until absolutley necessary. they told me it was a 2 hour drive away and that i should et the kids from school early or else the staff lock up and go home.
so with my car packed to brim i went to my kids school and took them out of school.
i told them what was happening and i literally right there broke my childrens hearts.
anyway, i am back home, i have the house in my name now. dh has given up the game. dh has been going to anger management for 4 months. we are going to marriage guidence seperatley and together.
happily easter weekend just gone was amazing. i feel a corner has turned, because at the beginning of April things were horrible.