To have told them to fuck off?

[CurlyRover]

Parents and I have a very difficult relationship. Growing up I was thrown out from the age of 13 on a regular basis -
sometimes quite literally, regularly hit, sworn at and made to feel like utter shit .

Since moving out over 10 (probably approaching 15 now) years ago things improved as long as I didn't spend long in their presence. There's no such thing as a discussion - it's their way or expect an argument even about the most trivial of things.

Of course, everything was is always my fault and if I just apologised / agreed / wasn't so argumentative/ fucked up in the first place we'd be totally fine.

A few months ago we got into an argument. I was going through a really rough time physical health wise and they were incredibly unsupportive and made me feel even worse about myself at a time when I really needed support. A day after the unsupportive comments we got into an argument. I was trying to get ready to go to the airport and they just kept calling and calling me. I kept cutting them off as I needed to get ready and didn't want an argument but they just kept calling back. Then when I did answer I got an earful of abuse so I told them to fuck off and hung up the phone.

I haven't heard from them since. Of course it's all my fault and they are now refusing to speak to me since I said fuck off.

Part of me is thinking it's quite nice as we won't have to come up with an excuse about why we can't see them Christmas day. Another part of me feels it's really rubbish.

Long story short anyway, WIBU to have told them to fuck off in this situation?

Also WIBU to just send them a Christmas card through the post with some money in?

I have heeded the advice and decided not to send the card and money. Instead I bought some Christmas decorations to brighten up my office in work. Money well spent I think

I doubt we'll even receive a card from them tbh.

And sadly my (not so) little sister still lives with them and has also decided to go NC. Presumably they've put across their side that I undeservedly told them to fuck off and I'm an awful human being whereas of course they can do no wrong

Good luck to you, OP. I think you're doing the right thing. You are not responsible for your parents or your sister (who will hopefully contact you again, it is early days). You need to think about yourself and live the life you want to lead, free from their emotional abuse.