Things I won't miss about exh this Christmas

[Wilhamenawonka]

I've been a little down this week thinking about Christmas on my own with the kids. Very what's point about it all.

Then i remembered how he used to go round the house looking for his presents like a little kid before confessing with a sad face.
Uuugh. It makes my fanny shrivel just thinking about it.
Add to that all the wife work and lack of thought from him every year and it suddenly doesn't look too bad.

Anyone else got a good tale of freedom?

Brilliant thread. It's been 54 weeks since I decided to finally shed my 13 stone of useless lard. 28 years of his shit. He's all of the things described in this thread. I'm going to be free of him in a couple of weeks.

Today he emailed me this little gem 'not long now until I am out of your life for good. I am sure it will work out for you and you will be able to spend a happier Christmas than you did last year'

Nearly wet myself laughing

@Secretsout I hope you simply sent this back:

👍🏻

Well, it was very tempting mickhucknall but I’m very restrained.

I’m so overjoyed at the prospect of not being with him that I feel like cracking open the bottle of Crystal champagne I’d bought him for his birthday 10 years ago (or accidentally knocking it on the floor when the removal men come in 🥂🍾

You're all helping so much.
Mine wasn't an arsehole. His specialty was acting like a little lost boy or a sulky teenager.
He used to wake up super early on Christmas wanting to open his presents.
Ewwwww.

Wilham - mine used to say 'do you love me?' in a really pathetic voice. say no more.

@Secretsout - go on. Open it and enjoy with a fishfinger sandwich

Having to make the kids wait to open their presents whilst he had his morning poo (which would take about a hour). He was also a tight ass and would sit pulling faces whilst the kids opened their presents and say ‘how much did that cost?’ every few minutes.

I split up with him 3 years ago but stupidly got into another toxic relationship soon after, this year is my first Christmas at home alone with the dd’s. It’s been nice do do shopping without having to justify my spending. I’m also buying myself a couple gifts as ex never bought me anything I actually wanted.

Brilliant thread!

The treading on eggshells while he decided what he'd create a row about or have a sulk over to fuck the day up.
The endless unnecessary hours with him in the kitchen, only for him to refuse to eat with us all.
Even more alcohol and weed than usual.
Doing all the food/gift shopping while he takes no interest except to criticise what I've decided on, having doggedly refused to be involved in any way prior.
Complaining about the hour I spent putting up my tree, refusing to acknowledge that it looks fab (I have built up a collection of beautiful glass baubles over the years that are my pride and joy) but graciously accepting compliments from visitors.

Generally sucking the joy out of everything.

This is my third Christmas without him and I am looking forward to it more than ever

mickhucknall surely that would be as bad as slipping some salmon in to his soft furnishings on moving day? 😬😬😬😬😬

Nothing to add but brilliant thread!

Tut tut Secretsout

Him sulking at me in the evening after the DC had gone to bed because I wasn’t sufficiently grateful for the utter crap he had bought me as presents. Think: fake nails from Asda and Nivea hand cream. After I had spent weeks thinking of and paying for beautiful, perfect presents for everyone, including his family.

Cheggars I am howling 😂

Still got my DH but if he pulls any shit this Xmas it will be our last together, 2017 has been a shower of shit for me and 2018, I’m offloading. Life’s too short for this noise. Merry Christmas girls

The sitting on the sofa like a wet dishcloth looking blank while I sorted EVERYTHING. Then getting arsey because I hadn't given him detailed instructions of what he should do to 'Help' The failure to initiate or take responsibility for any fucking single thing.

So now while I still do it all it is without the overwhelming irritation and accompanying murderous rage and life is sweet.

My Dad apparently nearly decked my ExH the year he did an 8pm dash to Tesco on christmas eve to get my christmas presents - didn't buy me anything and decided to wrap up a pair of jeans that i already owned so that "you would have something to open"

Another year he gave me magazines that he took off a plane - he wrapped them up and said i got you these because i know how much you love magazines - never read magazines EVER!

Yep really going to miss that twat ha ha ha

Ex husband - going to his parents for the afternoon, so so boring, can't describe how dull, painful. Their fiberoptic mini tree sums up the spirit of Christmas in the house, fuck it's been 10 years and I'm still scarred from her "healthy" Christmas dinner "Christmas isn't an excuse to indulge" YES IT FUCKING IS!!!!
Ex partner- the drunkenness, the having a go at me for spoiling MY kids, the drunkenness, the making me choose between my lovely family and him, making me miss being with my parents at Christmas, god he was a cunt.

Im happily married again now, one of my stipulations in our relationship was that christmas is done my way. I'm very precious about it, it's my favourite thing on the world maybe i had to have all those shit years to eventually get it perfect!

@operaha - a Christmas prenup!!!

Good for you!!!

Him wanting to spend the entire Christmas break in his home town, acting like a teenager. My family did Christmas wrong, so I wasn't allowed to spend it with them. His were proper Christians who went to church once a year.

Our final Christmas together, when I put my foot down, eating dinner in silence with a choral cd on, with him occasionally interjecting about how the meaning of schristmas had been lost.

Being a nasty drunken bastard. Unfortunately we are still together

Holding our breath to see if he decided he'd join in, and when and what sort of mood. Waiting to see if he liked what he'd got or was going to give it away. The excitement of unwrapping stuff from my Amazon wish list that I knew I was getting because he couldn't be arsed to create a separate Amazon and email account, this was however a step forward from the years when I'd buy my own stuff. Oh no, I still did that too. Wondering at which point he was going to bugger off, sit in another room demanding coffee whilst I cooked a meal he would barely eat, didn't help with, didn't clear up after.
I am really going to enjoy making the day about the children. I'm going to decorate in a wonderfully tacky manner with lots of lights etc. He was gone last year but we were still a bit fragile last year but will still managed to make it more chilled out than ever before! This year it's going to be amazing and not about him. Ever again.

There really is a load of joysuckers out there. Brilliant thread ladies, have a good one

Sorry bath. Have some and . Seriously though, if your husband is a nasty drunken bastard then why don't you do yourself a favour and make 2018 the year that you decide enough is enough and get rid. Promise life will look a lot brighter.

Same as lots of other ladies, I did everything including finding and buying dcs pressies so doing the same this year but saving a fortune on not buying his expensive gifts. Will be treating myself to something gorgeous instead.
No more half arsed 'offers to help' which needed to come with complete instructions for the most stupidly simple stuff 'how do we usually chop carrots' was a particularly stupid stabworthy question last year followed by him basically making a big show of putting placemats on the table, my fucking hero.
No more eating most of the gorgeous christmas cake me and dc make every year.
No more opening my gifts and realising they were all cheap fake crap off ebay.
No more eye wateringly boring in-laws on xmas eve.

Bless, he did text last week asking about dcs presents cos he hasnt got a clue what to get. I had great pleasure in telling him all presents from me are done so up to him what he wants to get .

Mine use go church in morning. On his own. Present opening had be stopped.
My grown kids and I have so much fun now and we don't even do presents . Just lots food and watching movies that we each choose. No booze either it just spending time together.