So a bit of background here. Been with DH for almost 12 years, since we were teens. Married for 7 with two young Dd's. We've had our ups and downs but have a really good relationship on the whole.
I'm quite insecure about my looks and body. A struggle that has been with me since early teens and Ive been struggling since DD1 was born with the change in my body, seems to have gotten worse the past month or so. I look after myself, mainly eat well and exercise to try and be looking the best I can be.
DH has always said he thinks I'm gorgeous, can't believe he managed to get someone like me, work mates etc are always commenting how lucky he is. This isn't a stealth boast I promise just needs to be said for context.
DH knows how insecure I am with my looks and knows my struggles with my body especially how hard I've been finding it recently. However he's now taken to picking on things about me I've never even thought of in a kind of jokey manner but at the same time I feel it's not entirely a joke the way he goes on. The most recents were a couple of weeks ago when he continually commented on how I had a huge forehead, head spam, too much space there etc and then made fun of the shape of my head. It juts too far out at the back, I have a shelf there to keep stuff on etc. Last night he started commenting on the size of my ears. Apparently the holes in them are huge, like craters, could lose something in them etc. He could see he was hurting my feelings but continued to go on and on about it. I couldn't say much as both our daughters where there. I was very quiet for the rest of the night, just didn't know what to say.
I just don't know where it's came from or what to do. He's changed so much as a person this past few months just hardly ever has a nice thing to say to me, lots of petty arguments, picks holes in things I do. I just don't know what to do. I don't feel I can say anything to him either as it'll end up in a massive argument and he'll make me feel I've made a fuss over nothing. I know joking around is healthy and we have had an ongoing joke(absolutely years old from when we first met) about him having a big head. Not something that gets said a lot but it's commented on in jest now and then. If he'd ever hinted it hurt his feelings though it would never be said. Hes usually the first one to bring it up anyway. By surely this constant picking on me isn't right is it? Or am I being oversensitive?