Is that crazy? - private investigator

[Batulay]

Hiya, long story short:
Met the most amazing guy online
Chatted for about a week
Having been single for a long time, over a silly thing I freaked out and ended it abruptly
Tried to message him again, he hasn't logged in in ages
That was back in August
Can't find a guy that half as good as he was, not just saying it, the guy had me hooked, realised that too late
I'm thinking, if by the end of this month he doesn't log in, I'll get a private investigator to track him down
I've asked one for a quote, not massively expensive
If it comes to it, prepared to take a 'no' from him, but at least I can find some sort of closure then. I'm sort of hanging at the moment

Is that crazy?

Besides the obvious madness of stalking him and him reporting you for it. Have you considered that since he became unavailable you suddenly became obsessed? It's one guy you knew a week, seek therapy for attachment issues not a PI

I’ve just checked and you are the same person. You really need to put this behind you. You are blowing this up into something it never was. You haven’t even met this person, yet you’re acting like he was the love of your life! Please do think about talking to your gp about some counselling or anti-depressants because there’s clearly more to this than just some missed opportunity. Your not behaving rationally and if you continue down this path, you’ll probably end up in serious trouble and definitely very unhappy.

*you’re

Heist won, that is major league stalking!

Or even Christ, woman...

Well carry on if you want to end up with a harassment order against you.

Absolute madness.

Please let it go. You have no idea who he really is.

Go on YouTube and do get your ex back type meditations if you want... do 30 days no contact. Buy those crazy get the guy books.

Don't... confuse reality with your imagination

Stalking/harassment will end absolutely any hope you'll ever have!

Also if you never met... that's quite likely because he's actually a woman... or a bored teenager... or anyone other than who you thought who wanted a few minutes of pretending then decided to quit the game

I did this, it didn’t go well!

lynmilne65 how do feel about doing it now?

@lynmilne65 you need tell us everything

OP wants to appear in the daily fail 😂😁😃

In all seriousness how much this PI charging I wanna find someone i met once in 1982 he gave me a sweet as a kid only knew his name, but I feel i owe him a fruit salad soo need to track him down

Why don't you contact Nev and Max from catfish?

OP: if you start talking to anyone you don't know online, once you've chatted for more than a day or 2 and if you think they have potential then suggest you meet up in a cafe one morning or afternoon. Chatting online can seem fun and it is very easy but ultimately it's escapism and unsatisfying. You want a man who can actually be in a relationship, not one who can just send messages.

And of course you need to forget the man you're referring to in the OP. If he had been right for you you would have met up with him after a day or 2 of chatting.

Or rather he would have asked to meet you if he genuinely wanted to. That's just how men are. He's logged off uninterested if he exists I'm afraid

This seems like a sure fire way of earning yourself a restraining order.

Let it go, op. You’ll find someone else if you stop obsessing about this bloke. You never really knew him after a week chatting online.

He knows where to find you but hasn’t been looking for you, which should tell you enough.

Wow - the fact you need to ask is worrying.
Get yourself some counselling please!!!!

I doubt the Mail would print this - two-sided discussions are probably more their thing, not a ridiculous idea unanimously voted batshit.

If someone I messaged for a week for a private investigator to find me, I’d get a restraining order against them. STOP.