Is that crazy? - private investigator

[Batulay]

Hiya, long story short:
Met the most amazing guy online
Chatted for about a week
Having been single for a long time, over a silly thing I freaked out and ended it abruptly
Tried to message him again, he hasn't logged in in ages
That was back in August
Can't find a guy that half as good as he was, not just saying it, the guy had me hooked, realised that too late
I'm thinking, if by the end of this month he doesn't log in, I'll get a private investigator to track him down
I've asked one for a quote, not massively expensive
If it comes to it, prepared to take a 'no' from him, but at least I can find some sort of closure then. I'm sort of hanging at the moment

Is that crazy?

Spend the money on therapy.

Fucking hell 😂

Wow...don’t do it. No good can come from it. You need to spend the money on some counselling sessions! You sound very desperate and insecure and unhappy! Work yourself out before you date other people. You only spoke to him for a week in August. Online! You have zero idea who this guy is so move on!

That YouTube link 😂😂

" Kevin do you honestly not want to see me anymore? " oh god I'm crying haha

What was the small thing that made you end it so abruptly?

Wow! A PI after chatting online for a week? did you even meet him in person?

You are absolutely mental.

prettypetal so funny thanks.

Can we calm down on the offensive words for mentally ill please?

OP what you are suggesting is very odd. It’s way over the top and could be seen as intimidating by the man. Time to dust yourself off and move on I think.

Yes! Crazy!

My mum did online dating. One of the guys she met lived at the other end of the country. Fell madly in love spent a few weekends together and then he decided to try again with his ex.

For literally the rest of her life - ten years - she called this guy her soulmate, cried over him, wondered what might have been, even after she remarried. On her death bed she spoke about this guy. In reality he was a depressed ageing hippy with a pot problem and if he hadn't dumped her she would have gotten pissed off with him within a few months anyway. But because that never happened she turned him into the ideal man.

You don't even know this guy. Let it go!

@prettypetal
Just wow! That's hilarious

That YouTube link 😂

Haha JJ is immense in the most terrifying way ever!!!!

If someone hired a pi to find me for a date I’d run a mile it’s not endearing or cute, it’s a massive Red Flag as mumsnet loves to say.

Have you considered he may not log in because he has found someone and is now happily settled down

^this.

Please let it go and move on op.
Obsessing about him will only stop you finding happiness elsewhere.

I think sometimes the need for closure about a situation can make us think and act irrationally. It sounds like you really need to take some time to look after yourself and think about what makes you happy regardless of whether you're dating or not. It sounds like a cliche but it's when you're happy in yourself that you're in the best place to meet someone.

Leave it, you're very much in danger of crossing into stalker territory. You've built him up into something it's very likely he isn't-you had contact for a week, how well can you get to know someone in such a very short space of time.

Google limerence. And leave him be!

Absolutely batshit crazy

Fuck me, your talking about hiring someone to stalk someone else and your not expecting to end up in court?

Wtf, this has gotta be a fake post no one in their right mind would do this

If you need a good PI I recommend inch high private eye he's top of his game

Good luck

If you can’t see how utterly bonkers and stalkerish this is, then you are not ready for a relationship.

Ummmm, this is terrifying so no, don’t do it. Spend the money on therapy instead.

This is remarkably similar to a post from a couple of weeks ago so if it’s the same and it’s real then you need to listen to what people are telling you because it’s what we told you last time and it’s what we’ll tell you next time too. You need to move past this.

You've never even met him! If you track him down he'll probably get a restraining order against you, I know I would!

Are you on glue?