I’m having second thoughts.

[Lostmum72]

I’m supposed to be getting married next year, but I’m having second thoughts, but I don’t know what to do for the best I have 2 dcs to think about.

He’s not a bad person I could do a lot worse but so much has happened and I just find it hard to forget about it and move on. We have 4 dcs between us 2 each from previous relationships. It’s so hard with blended families the problems that occur, jealousy between the kids, both of us being protective over our own kids. He shouts at mine quite a lot I feel more than his own, I don’t even feel he really cares about my kids. I’ve had to put up with his dcs saying some awful things about me, his ex causing trouble even coming into the house and writing fuck u notes in my dds room, been to court etc etc. There seems to be 1 rule for his and 1 rule for mine which I get fed up of. I had cervical problems and had to have treatment to prevent cancer he was so horrible because I couldn’t have sex. That was a year ago and I’ve completely gone of sex I don’t know if it’s with him or just in general, it took ages to get over my cervix having all that done to it. I can’t do anything about it though, I stupidly moved town to be with him, changed my dcs schools they are now all settled and doing well I can’t just move them around again because Mum is unhappy. What a nightmare

[Mxyzptlk]

This was on another thread but is worth thinking about, Lostmum72.

To quote Maya Angelou 'When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time'

That man's attitude when you were ill was completely disgusting.

[Mxyzptlk]

So if the choices are :
1- Keep kids in same school, live in another house, have to make new friends.
2- Keep kids in same school, stay with man whom you don't really want to be with, have to engage with his ex and his relatives.
Which looks like the better deal?

[Mxyzptlk]

There is also the option of returning to where you were before, where presumably you have friends and kids can go to their previous school and may be happy to do that.
Worth thinking about.

[SandyY2K]

My dd isn’t allowed to wear bra tops like the sports ones around the house

Who decided on this rule?

Please please don't let your children be treated like this. The effects will be long lasting.