DH 'appreciating' my body...

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DH has a strong sex drive. We have sex c. twice per week and ideally he'd like more.

He loves watching me getting dressed in the morning and finds it arousing. On days when he needs to be up and out of the house before me, he is often late because he is hanging around to catch a glimpse of me naked!

I find this very annoying. I don't mind being appreciated and fancied, I'm glad of course that my DH finds me attractive. But sometimes it seems to me to verge on ogling and perving iyswim, and a bit obsessive. I've actually started to look forward to times when I can get ready un-ogled!

I know this isn't Aibu, but AIBU!? Would you be happy or annoyed by such attention?

Similar to sonic, with my exH he walked into the bedroom once when I was changing (daytime) so I was naked apart from socks he stopped and said wow. Think it was because it was the daytime and I don't generally walk around naked.

To the extent that the OP said I'd find that bothersome. Can't you talk to him and say you find it unsettling?

Wow.

Is there such a thing as too high a sex drive? Could there be a hormone imbalance perhaps? I'm just wondering... that is a VERY high sex drive...

And, yes, it'd piss me off I think

*A lot of negativity here! I think there are some green eyed women who secretly wish their husbands paid this much attention to them.

Op, your husband clearly loves you. Fancies the pants off you. Have a word if you wish but if all this dried up you’d be back here wittering about how your husband is so distant nowadays etc. Careful what you wish for.*

What I wish for is that women don't put all their self worth on a man finding them sexually attractive. Or in this case, perving at them.

Married men fancying their own wives... Whatever next!

It's better than the alternative, surely?

There's no middle way, is there?!?!

Women, be grateful that you are fancied.

I think it's just a little bit too intense though, isn't it?

Apparently not. She should shut up about it.

It's very depressing that some women can't tell the difference between fancying and creepy ogling. Indeed seem to be pathetically grateful for it.

Or think they should be.

I agree with those that say it is nothing to get rattled about within a happy, secure relationship.
I must admit I sometimes pretend to be asleep so I can get a really good view of my DH getting dressed or undressed, there is something so attractive about him being totally uninhibited, wandering round naked, and he is a hunk...
I honestly don't think he would mind and would think it was a good thing I found him so sexy but some of the responses on here are making me wonder if I'm a pervert!

dressing gown and get dressed in the bathroom?

But surely you can’t see your own DH as creepy?? I mean in the actual proper use of the word!
A random bloke ogling you, I get that. But this is supposed to be the man you love. If you take issue with him showing that he fancies you, then you’re the one with the problems.
God yeah, swatting them away when you’re not up for it etc. Then them trying their luck again, not on at all. I’ve been there. It’s more than crap.
But them just appreciating your form, paying you a compliment (again, being crude or vulgar = not on)
Are men supposed to not find their wives attractive anymore? Women taking issue with their husbands complimenting them in a sexual tone is taking feminism to the extreme. And if you don’t want your husband to find you attractive I think the problem lies with yourself and your marriage is up shit creek.

Depends on the DH. Harvey Weinstein anyone?

The problem is not that he fancies her, of course he does, but that he's ogling her. Fuck all to do with feminism.

Once during sex a man said mmm to me. I was dressed and out the door in minutes.

Horrible!

Side issue I know, but Once during sex a man said mmm to me. I was dressed and out the door in minutes

whaaaaaat?

Mmm is just a noise! What are you on about?

A lot of negativity here! I think there are some green eyed women who secretly wish their husbands paid this much attention to them.

What bollocks.

My husband pays me plenty of attention. He also respects my boundaries though and is grown up enough not to make himself late for something important just so can catch a glimpse of me naked.

I too love watching my husband get changed. I don't make myself late for work and if he was uncomfortable about how often I did it I would stop.

OP has said he is obsessive about it. If anyone thinks this is a good thing you may want to raise your standards. Thankfully most women aren't just grateful their husband's fancy them and wouldn't put up with what the OP has described as obsessive behaviour that is upsetting her.

Are men supposed to not find their wives attractive anymore? Women taking issue with their husbands complimenting them in a sexual tone is taking feminism to the extreme

Where are you getting this crap from? Whoever said men aren't supposed to dance their wives?

Have you actually read the thread? Or are you making things up?

Fancy, not dance!

Is your husband Alan Partridge Sandy?

Have you actually talked to your DH about this?

Just tell him it's making you a little uncomfortable. See what he says / does. That will tell you a lot about him.

My dp ogles me loads and I love it. But he's meticulously non-pervy in public / around others and if I'm feeling off or ill or unhappy or whatever he would not let that part of his thinking show iyswim. That's the key I think. Partners need to let each other know that they notice boundaries and abide by them. As soon as one partner feels they're being ignored as a person and their body takes precedence, it gets really tricky.

I'm a massive perv but I keep it under wraps until the bedroom door is closed. My dp is the same so we are happy with each other. It's all to do with your own preferences. Speak up and see how he takes it.

There's a difference between being fancied by your husband and being treated like a stripper / sex object when you're just doing basic daily tasks. That's not love and respect being demonstrated.