DH and I have been together for 5 years, he is a sensitive, kind and lovely person. I am a femenist and think of myself as strong and independent.
We have a good relationship.
We have a ten month old baby and we both work part time and look after our DD when the other works.
He had a DD from a prev rl who is 10 and stays with us 40% of the time and lives very close by.
Last night, I told him that he should do something to manage his DD's phone and iPad addiction as she is exhausted and LITERALLY on them all day and night.
He really hates it if I so much as suggest a tiny thing about his parenting and says fuck you etc and tries anything to bat me off.
I care a lot about DSD and only raise things if I think she seems unhappy because otherwise it's not worth DH being defensive and angry with me.
His criticism is that I'm judgemental and don't raise things nicely which is true, I was so annoyed last night that I told him it was bad parenting to allow his DD 24/7 internet access. So I can understand why he was annoyed.
He was sorting out some wires down stairs and when I was having a go at him about the fact his DD had been on her iPhone for the entire evening without talking to either of us, he hit me with the bunch of wires as I walked past. It hurt a bit, left no Mark.
But now I'm utterly confused about how to process it. I've always told myself I'd leave at the first sign of violence. I was being angry and horrible to him but there's never a reason to (as he puts it) "lash out" at me.
I dont know where to go from here. Part of me wants to just carry on as though nothing happened. He apolagised, we're both sleep deprived/ I'm confused.
Thanks for reading.