I can't forget about a guy I met on holiday?

[gaynor83]

I went on holiday a couple of months ago, and met a really great Australian guy. We met up a few times, really got on and there was amazing chemistry. We did have sex, I wouldn't usually but I figured it may be the only chance we would get.
I just figured it was a holiday fling.
He added me on Facebook, and when we got home we chatted loads for a few weeks and he was really keen to Skype too.
Then it petered out and after a few weeks I messaged him..he replied but took ages. Seemed still friendly and chatty but as he took so long I let the conversation end, I didn't want to bug him.
I just can't stop thinking of him, and miss chatting to him so much. He's constantly online on Facebook and it really hurts that he doesn't message me or respond quickly as he used to.
I know it's so silly as he is so far away...but I can't help how I feel 😓.
I've got family near where he lives, I'd been considering visiting and letting him know I'd be around..would just love to see him again. I know I should let it go...but would it seem really weird to him if I told him I was thinking of visiting, and see what he says?
I'm not usually like this, but I just don't want to let it go.

It's not bad, he's not bad, but it's just not something that can go anywhere, he realised it first, that's all.

😞

Not being mean OP but you really need to grow a thick skin when it comes to the dating world.
Be prepared to be used,ghosted love bombed and a million and one other things before potentially finding the one.
It will make you harder as a person unfortunately but Morden dating today is far from those romantic movie happy endings they all like us to believe are true.

Not everyone experiences that horror story user.

Poor op hasn't a hope in hell of weathering that litany of horror.

Girl, you are made of sensitive stuff. You have to bear that in mind - please don't put yourself down for it.

But do bear in mind that if a man wants to be with you he will find a way. You don't have to help him along.

Take care.

Two years ago I was in your situation OP. Only I didn't shag him on holiday, we we're just mates. Couldn't forget him though and we were messaging constantly.

He's sitting on the couch right next to me now.... In Sydney where we live together. Admittedly he was equally keen in the early messaging though and it was only three months between the holiday and me coming here. Saying that, would your really want it to work? Living overseas is tough in so many ways.

Yeah I am very sensitive that way, really wish I wasn't. Tend to have a very romantic view of things...would be great to change!
That's a nice happy story for you and your guy in Sydney:)
Well we're both students so have degrees to finish and money is limited I guess. He did seem like he wanted to be in touch initially but I guess it's fizzled out for him now. I'm not gonna keep messaging, I suppose he would contact me first if he wanted to.