DH doesn't get how difficult I'm finding this

[dothetwister]

I'm suffering with all day morning sickness and I'm off work as a result. DD goes to childcare some days, although I'm at home taking care of her for maybe 1.5 days per week. The full day on my own is horrendous, I struggle to cope.
This week, DH has made a mistake with out childcare arrangements, telling them we didn't need them on a day that we did. By the time he realised, it was too late to rearrange. I asked him to sort out an alternative, leaving it with him as there was nobody I could think of to step in.
True to form, DH has not communicated the lack of childcare arrangements to me until last night (the day we don't have childcare is today). He told me "you have to do it, we have no choice, I can't have the day off work."
This may seem small for some 'it's only one extra day afterall' but genuinely, a full day of looking after DD, preparing meals, entertaining her whilst I'm so sick all day is just dreadful.
I'm spending full days in bed some days where I can. And, if I'm too ill to work, how can I be expected to take care of a toddler all day for 2 days in a row? 1 was more than enough.
I'm not sure he fully appreciates and acknowledges how difficult I'm finding this. He's having to do a lot of the practical stuff- cooking etc as it makes me sick but he seems so resentful and tired of my complaining. I don't know how to get him to fully realise how difficult this is, I am in no fit state to take care of DD for 2 days on the trot whilst feeling this poorly. The day ahead seems such a mountain to climb... DD is 2.5 and can not entertain herself. I just want ro curl up into a ball on the sofa all day and shut my eyes...

Get medication. Allowed me to just about function both times and be a parent to my toddler second time round. Why you haven't got a prescription is beyond me.

Love and sympathy to you OP. I’m 7 weeks pregnant with DC2 and HG is kicking my butt again.

I definitely think you need medication - nobody should be left to struggle like you are.

Here’s a quick run down of what I can manage on meds:

DC1 goes to nursery 8.45-11.45 every day, but I do all the drop offs and pick ups, luckily it’s in a park - so I can vomit behind a bush if necessary!

I can prepare a simple lunch, sandwich, fruit, feed it to DS and EAT IT MYSELF!

DS and I often have an hour nap/downtime in the afternoon in my bed.

After that we play and watch CBeebies until DH gets home and we eat dinner.

DH also goes away 1-2 nights a week for work - which I hate but I can just about manage if I’m militant with my meds.

It’s not a full life atm but it is managing - and you can do it too!

I completely understand the hell of severe pregnancy sickness. At 5 months pregnant with my son I just couldn't take the vomiting anymore and was prescribed premethazane. It didn't stop the constant nausea which lasted until I gave birth but it stopped the actual vomiting.
I could have gladly just slid down the side of the wall and stayed on the floor in a crumpled heap. It was the worst time of my life. I still had to go to work, cook, clean and generally keep going. Far from enjoying being pregnant, I actually lost interest in life.
Bizarre as it sounds, when my son was 4 months old I became pregnant again. I didn't vomit much but the nausea was horrendous and I felt like I had a permanent hangover. Again I took the Medes and it got me through. I certainly didn't have a husband bringing me food and drinks and helping with anything. He just didn't seem to get it!
I hope you feel better soon OP

Honestly, go back to the GP right away (or get a phone appt) and say you're too unwell to safely care for your child and you need the medication. Promethazine has been used for decades in pregnant women. My GP gave it to me as soon as I asked - I wasn't even being sick but felt so sick I couldn't move. I couldn't swallow my other medication. I was so weak I couldn't lift my head up, no way I could have taken care of a toddler.

Of course in my case it turned out I was having twins and they were sucking me dry of every nutrient - I was deficient in every single thing imaginable. Once I started supplementing my vitamins properly, and had the sickness meds and especially when I got to the second trimester, I felt so much better.

Tell your GP you understand their reservations but you can't carry on like this. If they refuse, see another doctor. It's ridiculous to expect you to suffer like this honestly.

Update: I am collecting my anti-sickness meds from the GP this afternoon... thanks for all the advice here :)

Great news. Hope you feel better soon :)

Great, hope it gets better for you!

That's great! They changed my life and my toddler's