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I'm not sure I like him any more

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UterusHaver · 23/10/2017 18:16

Married 12 years. Two children in primary school, juniors. We've always ticked along even though we have different ideas at times.

But very recently he's shown he holds me in utter contempt. Said very spiteful things. Unforgivable stuff that I can't get past (though tbf he hasn't apologised or asked for forgiveness Hmm )

I don't even know what to do now. We're not really speaking except for brief exchanges about the children. I don't even know if he realises the whole thing is dead in the water now. I just feel sad and deflated.

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Hermonie2016 · 25/10/2017 20:33

Is the contempt only since discussions about ASD?

If you do divorce please use a solicitor who you wouldn't like to argue with.If he has contempt for you he is likely to be hostile irrespective of your attempts to be amicable.

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UterusHaver · 25/10/2017 20:45

No, it's not been the only time. But it feels different because it's not just about me and him. This is about my child. I can't believe how Mama Bear I feel about my children, but fuck me, criticise my parenting and and hear me roar.

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AuntyElle · 25/10/2017 21:08

And you're absolutely right, UterusHaver. Sending solidarity Flowers

PickAChew · 25/10/2017 21:31

This sounds like it's not so much the straw as the massive git big rock that broke the camel's back.

The phone thing is just symptomatic of everything really (unless your DS is with three, when I do admit I had to give up and go into a shop to top DS1's phone up because my credit card is automatically declined when I try to top up and my debit card just takes me to a swirly wheel of despair. If your H had anything about him, he would have mentioned such difficulties, though)

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UterusHaver · 27/10/2017 22:03

I'm still waking up furious every morning Sad and I've put some solicitors numbers in my phone.

His Google history has turned out to be rather unsavoury. I feel like a fool.

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Maelstrop · 27/10/2017 22:13

Careful re asking him to leave. If you're married, the house is not just yours, he has rights to it. If he agrees to go, great, particularly if you're the one who does childcare.

He sounds like a very angry man.

Take screenshots of the google searches he's done as evidence.

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UterusHaver · 27/10/2017 22:17

The searches aren't anything illegal/nasty , just standard yuck. I'm not rushing into anything yet.

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