Background, DH and I are both strong characters/personalities. Usual 'wifework' type issues with him but he is better at pulling his weight than he used to be, we share childcare responsibilities and we both work hard and FT.
I do get v irritated about the house chore issues and he says we have different standards and I project my stress onto the household and make everyone uncomfortable.
It came to a head yesterday when he had left something precariously in the entrance hall and I hurt myself on it. I swore and said he was 'fucking lazy' to have left it there. This was in front of the DC. He shouted at me for saying that to him and we spent the evening in different rooms. Today he exploded and shouted and swore, again in front of the DC, and said if I called him lazy again he would 'drag me out of the house by my hair'.
The DC understandably started crying so I packed a bag and left. Before I left with the DC, he told the children I was a bully and he had had enough of me treating him like that.
It is now nearly bedtime and I don't know what to do. Is his reaction as bad as I think? He would say my domineering behaviour provoked him.