Am I a lesbian?

[SoRubbish]

Hi all,

I've namechanged but I'm a regular poster since 2010.

Over the last 12 months or so I've began to find women more attractive than men - namely my DH.

Now. I love my DH, he's the nicest and respects me, loves me and has never hurt me.

I just don't think I find him sexually attractive anymore - or any man come to think of it.

I've started to develop feelings for my best friend. She's awesome, makes me laugh and knows all of my secrets. I count down the days until we go out for a drink because we get quite flirty and she makes me feel good. She's straight but we have kissed a few times in the past when been silly drunk!

I don't know. I really don't know what to do. I'd never leave DH because I don't want to break up a home for my children and I'd hate to cause him so much hurt.

Just looking to see if anyone else kinda feels the same as me.

It feels good to write it down tbh.

Separate issues.

If you are unhappy in your marriage, then you need to end it. If you are unsure then speak to him and maybe counselling can help. Are things equal in your house, how is he with the children etc? Is there anything we can help with there?

Who you see yourself with in the future is something else entirely - right now it doesn't matter.

Agree, separate issues. I think you need to work out if your marriage is working for you. And then you can start looking at your sexual orientation. Your feelings for your friend might not be as deep as you suspect, they might be masking that you are not happy in your marriage.

I agree with the poster who said that you don't have to be one thing or another

I came out at 31 so about 18 months ago. Got into my first relationship with a women which lasted 9 months. Was the best thing I ever did and everything seemed to just slot into place.

Don't put labels on it though. How do you feel about your DH more importantly. Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him or do you think you will regret not exploring this side of your sexuality?

Regardless of whether you're gay, straight, bi or curious kissing other people when you're married is cheating. As a lesbian it really fucks me off when people make it sound like kissing a woman when you have a husband doesn't really count. It totally undermines the significance and validity of same sex relationships.