Ex and the fb account

[southernharp]

My ex had always been absolutely anti fb. Recently though the kids told me that he had set up a basic account so he can follow a fb group. I am already in the group and I can see him there. No picture or anything. The account entirely private. I know he always uses the same password and so I had a nose and tried to log on as him, really to check he isn't posting shit about me. When I logged on, it took me to a different account - a name that isn't his and no picture, but with his birth date. Nothing there though. What could the point of that be? Is he up to something? He is a sly twat and so I am highly suspicious

Why TF are you bothered. Isn't he your ex

He’s your ex for a reason

If I log onto my account from another computer I get a notification. He will also get one telling him his account has been accessed from an unrecognised device. Be carful OP. Don’t stoop to his level and just block him.

Can't divorce him sadly. I live in a place where no fault is the only option and two years apart is the minimum period. I have to point out that I wasn't looking for any comment at all on the rights and wrongs of looking at his FB account and I certainly am not asking for comment on whether I am being unreasonable. It is interesting that advice around looking at the private stuff of a twatish ex or nearly ex varies so much and I wonder if the variation in advice depends on your own personal experiences of being entirely dicked around. Certainly when ex and I were together, I would never have contemplated any snooping. But then I had no idea of how bad things actually get and how people you thought you knew want nothing more than to hurt and destroy. It is very easy to take the moral high ground when your situation is not difficult and you have not been barraged with unpleasantness by someone determined to destroy you when they once claimed to love you and made promises in church to that effect.

Where are you OP?

You're going to get opinions when you post on a public forum whether you like it or not I'm afraid

Indeed dipping. But it doesn't mean I have to accept them!,

He’s got another account. He can spy on people who’ve blocked him this way. My ex was a sly shit too and used to do this to keep tabs on me.

Southern I have 2 fb accounts.* One I use every day and one that I use when I find out an ex has been snooping. I skip use it to snoop myself.*

Maybe he’s doing the same?

The only reason I’d say don’t do what you’re doing is because a. He will know and he’ll love the idea that you’re obsessed with him and b. Facebook stalking / snooping makes you go a little bit bonkers. No good comes of it. Learn from my bitter experience

This thread is weird the ex is incapable of FaceTime but is capable of hacking and diverting email. The ex had an affair (with evidence) but OP can’t use that in a divorce.

The only thing I’m sure of is that the OP is creepy.

My OH has a FB account with no picture and no posts and no friends - purely set up to follow a couple of pages/groups linked to his hobby

I think he was helped with the email. I can't get a divorce because the system here is no fault. 2 years separation is the only reason for a divorce.

New dad die . People on mn do live in other places beyond the UK. People on mn are in difficult and controlling relationships. This is not Aibu. Stop the name calling and pull your neck in.

Whoops. Meant newDaddie.

A pp is correct. He will have probably got an email saying that someone has logged on, on a device he doesnt usually use to log on to.

He sounds awful. But you cant keep doing this. Its just as bad as him looking at your emails.