Does he still make a fuss?

[user1499288566]

Does your guy still make you feel special? Does he make you feel like you mean the world to him? Or after years of being together and child later does he treat you like your just there, part of the furniture.makes me sad when I look back

[user1499288566]

Could be , I mean it's not easy for women either is it? Our bodies change too on top .we enter into this other world with someone who you think is there hand in hand, but it just feels like your the one holding it together , it's a lonely place. My little girl has c palsy she was diagnosed around one , I left my job to be there for her and all her app, to be there helping her at home with what I was told to do by doctors, my mum has always been the one to come with me to app , never him .id give him the feed back and he would just turn on me that they are stupid, I didn't ask enough etc, he just didn't want to face it , that's the truth , it was easier to step back and block it out.im tearing up writting this , and don't know why I'm getting Into it, but I feel I carry that much pain and heartache with me and I just hold it in acting fine, but I'm not, I'm heart Broken, I feel like someone has kicked the hell out of me, I'm angry im sad I'm guilty, I went through so much alone, in the early stages of being preg and after having her I found out he was on coke , going forward to know, my daughter is 4 he don't do drugs got another job which he been doing 2 or 3 years now, but it's working away only comes back weekends, iv spoken to him in past about how I feel , and the pain I still carry but he will never know, how could he he didn't go through it. I lived with mom n dad till after she was one due to his behaviour, and because that was to much on them I got my own place, iv had to sort everything, be the rock, the love we had changed when he put me through all the lies and upset while I was preg, it was never full the same after. Almost like it was tarnished. Iv battled on hoping it would come good, but still 5 yrs being together I'm alone, he is away communication int great when he away , and I still feel alone and empty

[FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty]

So sorry you've been through so much. Really doesn't sound like you have much to lose by dumping his sorry arse to be honest. He has let you and your DD down from day one.

[User36367292]

Based on your last post then, I would take steps to bring the relationship to an end. I can't see any positives.

[user1499288566]

I think I have put it off because of course I wanted it to work with my child's dad, second I worry I don't have the strength to fight over child care and him harassing me when I'm trying to heal and start over

[TheWorldIsMyCakePop]

oh my goodness. I came on here to say DH (2nd marriage) and I have a good relationship and we try to appreciate each other etc, but having read all of your posts, I would say that there doesn't seem any mileage in this relationship.

He's not around in the week, treats you like a house maid and didn't make any effort for your birthday (or help your child to do so). I don't think he'd be fighting you for access to your DD (sorry). He would probably think it's too much like hard work.

As someone who has been through a relationship break up with an existing child in the mix, I would suggest you get yourself some counselling so you can just talk this through with someone impartial.

Will your DD be going to school in September? If you're currently a SAHM you may have to think about getting some income of your own or seeing if your family can put you up/help out.

Keep posting if it helps to get things out of your system. Good luck!

[user1499288566]

I think he was the love of my life you know, when I think back about how close we was , how intense it was, for me now even though iv fought to keep it, it's just ruined it , I struggle with trust now, I'm resentful, I'm bitter , I'm angry what has been lost when we could have been so close so happy

[SansaClegane]

RickJames funny you mention that song! Half a year ago I was crying almost daily as I thought that was me, I was stuck in that song forever, this was going to be my life now in a loveless, sexless marriage.
Few weeks later things escalated and we separated. I'm on my own now but feel so much happier and better about myself now.

[user1499288566]

I'm so fed up of being alone, never thought I'd have a child to do it solo while still with the person, all week on my own and by time he often calls on the eve it's like talking to a zombie because of how tired he is, so I feel like people at work share laughs and giggles etc, I get the tired grumpy moody left overs . I don't get why he wouldn't do anything to get a job that lets him come home every night to his family. I get so fed up feeling I'm the only one with the passion here

[user1499288566]

It's just alot emotionally