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jenk1 · 10/04/2007 15:32

ive left DH.
Im in a hotel room crying my eyes out cos i cant cope any longer with DS being at home 24/7, DD,s various medical problems and DH who refuses to give me any emotional support.
I dont want to go back home, but i love my kids i just dont know how to make sense of it all.

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Dinosaur · 12/04/2007 14:56

bumping for jenk1

jenk1 · 12/04/2007 20:00

sorry, have only just this,
came home yesterday and we rowed all day, it was awful.
Then last night me and DH had another talk and he told me a few things that have been bothering him, something really horrible, i thought all that with his uncle last year was bad enough but this is worse, i dont feel up to posting about it atm.

today has been a better day, he has decided to go back to work after next week when his note runs out as he admits he feels more depressed being at home than being in work.

This afternoon we had to go and get DD,s wheelchair ordered, and we,ve both been upset but its brought us a bit closer IYKWIM.

He is on the NHS waiting list for a counsellor, he was referred last August and there is an 18month waiting list in our area.

But we have decided he needs it NOW, so he is going private, he has sooooo much stuff in his head from his childhood and whats happened with the kids and he needs professional help.

We have decided that 1 day a week im going to the local hotel and spending the afternoon there, having a massage,swim,lunch and im really looking forward to that, DH doesnt feel up to doing anything like that yet, but i think he,ll feel better when he gets back into work and away from the world of SN.

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Ifonlyhewould · 12/04/2007 20:38

Hi Jenk1

Ive been following your post and i just wanted to say how pleased I am for you that DH is talking and you are making progress. Although you may not feel to be you do seem to be handling this really well. You sound like a really special person who just came to the end of her tether. It's lovely that you and DH have managed to come back together on this. The afternoon at the hotel sounds great! You enjoy it!
I hope your DH manages to get all the help he needs. Good luck to you both and wishing you all the best xx

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mummy2aaron · 13/04/2007 06:48

Jen I feel awful I have only just seen this and you have been so helpful to me in the past. Email me and we can meet. You have so much on your plate hun you need to prioritise yourself more. An afternoon off a week is a good idea. Please email me I am always here for you.

Claire
xx

Dinosaur · 13/04/2007 10:27

jenk1, sounds like you and DH are taking some very positive steps - well done on being brave enough to seize the nettle and good luck, I really hope that things improve

jenk1 · 13/04/2007 16:34

mummy2aaron, ive lost your email it was on my incredimail and when we moved it got uninstalled, can you give it to me again?

I also cant get onto TTR as id saved that link on my pc so thats why i havent been on there.

Id love to meet up with you.

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mummy2aaron · 13/04/2007 16:41

i'll email you hun

coppertop · 13/04/2007 16:42

Jenk - I hadn't seen this thread when I posted on your SN one. I'm glad you're okay. xxx

PeachyChocolateEClair · 13/04/2007 18:32

Oh Jenk hun sorry I missed this

I wish you weren't the other side of the country, and I could come and get you you DO however know that you are always welcome here (with one or both kids, and indeed DH) if you all need a break. You've given us so much support over the years .

My e-mail is peaches andcream 04 at btinternet dot com. I know you ahve it already, but in case you lost it. I'm always here hun, and can give you my telephone number if you need it X

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