Urgent advice needed re crazy date

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So I had a date with a guy on Friday got on very well (so I thought) I had way too much to drink and ended up taking him home and having sex. We didn't sleep all night and in the morning i stared noticing him saying weird things that made me think he was controlling and was talking about us as if we were in a relationship and it was all way too full on. It took me hours to get him to leave and I was abit freaked out by his behavior. He even suggested us meeting up with my child and his kids (I would never take my child to meet a man I have met once before). Honestly his behavior was very strange. He even talked about marriage and what if we fall in love and all this kind of thing.

Anyway yesterday I told him I don't think it's a good idea to meet up again, he asked why and I was quiet honest and said he said a few things that seemed controlling and was full on. He replied this morning saying "thanks for being honest x "

Anyway I have now just had the following text from him:

Hey, good morning.....ive got a super red raw sore throat, please please don't take this the wrong way but I went down on you, could it be because of that? I'm just worried so thought it best to ask

What the actual f**k this guy is insane I'm not sure if I should reply or not! I'm concerned if I don't reply it could be a problem as he knows where I live! I feel like replying to say don't you think it could have something to do with smoking and drinking all night? Please don't message me again!

Wow he did seem controlling and this just confirms that! What would you do?

Has he used your real name or your username on here?

My real name but I didn't want to put my real name on here so I put my username instead!

If he used my username I would be even more freaked out

Oh thank goodness, I thought he had found this thread!! Just block him. You see how when you didn't respond he tried again to get your attention? That's what he wants. When you respond he wins. Ignore and block. He'll find someone else to annoy.

Don’t get over invested here.

Just text back and say “yeah prob was me, good luck with that 😳x”

Block and leave him to sweat..,

I feel like saying this to him:

I'm not a doctor but I would assume it could be something to do with you smoking loads, drinking vodka all night and morning and talking a lot! If your concerned you should go to the doctor! But seriously don't contact me again!

I think I might send it I know you all have said don't but I just want to make it clear I don't wish to speak with him

Just ignore him.

He's just trying to get a response plus make you feel bad about the sex. Just block him.

Well isn't he a charmer? Euew!

Sent that last text if it's going to make you feel better but then block him so you can't get any responses from then on.

You can't undo the past.
Block and move on. Don't give him any thought and don't worry about what hasn't and probably won't happen (showing up at your door).

Chalk it up to too much booze and trust too quickly. We've all been there. It's one of many life lessons.

You dodged a bullet.

And not to be horrible but seriously, be careful. I speak from experience with youth behind me... don't get drunk on dates. Don't put yourself in a vulnerable position.

Yuk! What a prick!

Keep the messages in case this escalates.

I'm a bit at the comment that you are in some way to blame for this knob's behaviour. Back in the Neolithic Era in my youth I had various ONS and never had anything like this happen.

At least you know early on that he is a controlling loser, OP

Block his number and ignore him

(Was he really secretly drinking vodka shots in the morning? Maybe he has an alcohol problem. Either that or he is actually 19)

Ignore him.

I would send it, otherwise he’s just going to get angry! Just send them it, make it clear there’s not a future, and then ignore after that

I would text him back just this once. I'd say

"Id guess it's either sore from all the fags and booze or you've got a virus, there's lots going round at the moment. Don't panic Mr Wainwaring!!! 😂"

Or something like that, something that conveys that you are not bothered by the question at all and are even slightly amused that he's being such a wally.

The Mr Mainwaring bit may be aging me...

Even the stupidest of men would not assume that oral sex had given him a sore throat. He is shaming you and looking for a rise to engage in further unpleasant conversation. Ignore him.

Please do not reply. Your most powerful weapon here is your silence. He is using this as a ploy to get you to talk to him.

Tell me, have you been in abusive relationships before?

Of course it's risky getting really pissed and taking a stranger home or going to their house!
Replying to a pp.
So many women in this situation have sex they don't really want but are scared to say no too.
Nothing wrong with it at all from a moral viewpoint, but it's risky by definition.

PP. Don't reply
PP. Don't reply
PP. Don't reply.

OP. "I think I'm just gunna reply."

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He really is just trying to slut-shame you here because you rejected him. It's not going to stop if you respond, hell up the abuse. Just block him now and forget him.

Silence is a response in itself

Honestly do NOT reply - it will just open the floodgates. I seriously doubt he thinks he has caught anything from you, he is just trying to get you to respond. If he was that worried he would go to the GU clinic, not text you on the off chance you might say ‘oh yeah, totally forgot I had xyz’.

Bumdish - oral gonorrhoea and chlamydia will give you a sore throat, pretty sure it would take a few days to kick in though, not the next day. He's just looking for a reaction.

If someone sent me a message like that Id be so offended they'd be blocked.

You seem hell bent on explaining his sore throat to him.

Carry on.