I'm dying of hurt

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I split from eh in oct last year when he cheated on me. Long line of previous. I still love him but would never ever go back. 3 dc. Spent a Friday a couple of weeks ago with a friend of a friend who is newly in similar situation and was so honest with her re the hurt and pain and feelings etc. Tonight he emailed to say he's been on a second date with her. To give me a 'heads up'. I feel sick. Sick. Go instant diarrhoea. She knew who he was and what he's done and has gone on two dates with him. I know I need to stop caring. I have a bf. why does this hurt so so much. Feel sick

Thanks all. I have gotten a grip! Badly needed. Feeling in control and strong again. She is more than welcome to him.

Go girl!

Just think what a pitiful sack she is.

Hurt by her ex cheating and lines up your ex who she knows is also a cheating sack of shit for her next.

She won't be happy and loved up with him for long will she.

In the mean time she has lost a much better friend than you have.

Plus you won't be there when she is all sad again.

Keep hold of that grip very tightly op and it will get you through the process.

So who gives a shit if they’re dating?hou don’t because she’s welcome to him and his dishonesty.
Karma can be a bitch and it may or may not backfire on the pair of them and if and when it does,you will be well away,more confident and happy with yourself and it won’t be your problem. It will be theirs.

Don’t ever worry about what others think either because most will be inwardly thinking what a pair of cocks

You are not the pathetic one here OP! Any normal person who heard the man they're seeing's ex poor their heart out about how they had been cheated on would see what a complete arse he was and never see him again! This 'friend' has recently been cheated on, she knows what your ex did to you and she still goes on a second date? That's pretty pathetic. Hold your head high, all this has shown you is that she and him are not your friends. She's the one dating the cheater not you! You are by the far the best off and everyone else will see that.

That’s crap op 😕

Thanks all. Trying to maintain dignified silence.

One day this won't bother you at all it will all be in the past and you'll wander why you gave so much of a shit

OP.

He is a cunt.

She is a cunt.

Perfect match.

You are not a cunt, so neither of these two are a good match for you.
The pain you feel is disappointment that both turned out to be cunts,
you had expectations of better behaviour, but they were always going to be a big old let-down because they are cunts.

See them for what they truly are - cunts - not what you expect them to be - non cunts.

I'm sorry OP, it must be so very painful to have to deal with this piece of shit who has the nerve to call themselves your friend.

It seems a familiar pattern though unfortunately - my SIL has just got back on her feet after a long and painful divorce.
She talked to her best friend about a man she had just started seeing and about how much she liked him.
Lo and behold, a week later the friend announces that she has begun a relationship with this same man!

WTF is wrong with these women and whatever happened to the sisterhood?

FFS what lowlifes.

Hi OP,
I'm not sure if this will help but before I found out my husband was having an affair, I went to a wedding with him. He had been an absolute idiot towards me leading up to it and I knew something was going on but not sure what it was.
I cried my heart out to his work colleague and she was telling me I was beautiful and he adored me... they were having an affair. I found out about a month later.
I still think about it and it still hurts. They are together and live together now. I have accepted that they are both cunts and deserve each other.
I suppose I'm saying it's ok to acknowledge that it hurts but it reflects on the people they are, not you x

I don’t think it’s a dispoprotinate reaction. It’s only been a year, you confided in her and she betrayed you.

But it’s done now. What they have, whatever it is, is not a reflection on what you had with your ex. And you can go to bed at night and sleep soundly with the choices you’ve made, whilst the same can not be said for them. Ignore them both, they’re not good people.

They've gone away together for the night. I could vomit. I told her she need to go and have great sex - I didn't mean with him

It is not correct to say it takes the same length of time to get over a relationships as the relationship length. Fill up your life with loads of activities so he gets less headspace. They both betrayed you- you made yourself vulnerable in front of her. She's a cow.

What an absolute bitch! Sounds like they are perfect for each other. He’s a cheat and she’s just been cheated on. It won’t last. She knows what he did to you, she’s obviously desperate as they come