Success stories of going it alone with DC after leaving an abusive relationship?

[dorsetnightrider]

I'm 27 weeks pregnant and have made the decision to leave my abusive and alcoholic husband.

We have no money, no assets, and I have no savings of my own. I'm moving back to my mums house who doesn't live in the U.K. so I'm leaving behind friends and my beautiful dog who I can't bear to look at because I just start crying at the thought of leaving him.

I know I'm doing the best for my unborn child but I'm completely petrified of doing this all on my own.

Anyone come out the other side with positive stories?

Hi dorsetnightrider firstly I'd like to send my love and thoughts because you must be going through such an awful time at the minute.
I'm just settling in to a new life after leaving my ex partner early in September.
We have a child together, and a child from his previous relationship that lived with us and many times i worried about walking away because I'd lose my step child.
Slightly over 3 weeks since I moved into my new home and I've had daily contact with my step child. Coming for tea, sleeping over and via phone. I have to deal with my ex on a daily basis too but it's not as bad as I thought it would be.
I am still adjusting and I can fully appreciate how hard it is. He was a violent man for the whole 9 years we were together. Controlling and abusive in just about every way you can imagine. In some ways I wish I could have moved overseas to escape him sooner so maybe you have the best chance at a new life, a real fresh start. You can do it, of course you can. Because they beat us down without realising they're building us up in other ways. I certainly didn't feel that way at first til I realised actually I AM strong. I CAN do it. He is the weak pathetic one so go, get you and your baby to safety and be happy xxx

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories xx

I keep wavering between "I can do this!" to "I can't do this and the easy option is to stay where I am". But I know I have to leave and leave behind a life I thought I was going to have - a happy little family in the UK and more children with the man I love and married. I need to get to grips with my new reality and let go of my fantasy or hoping H will get sober in time for the birth of our daughter.

I'm too scared to leave the dog in his sole charge so I'm going to beg his sister (who lives about 100 miles away) to take him. She lives on a farm and I think that would be the best life for him coming second to coming home with me. I know H will lose his top at me removing the dog but I honestly won't sleep at night knowing he (the dog) is left with him.

Those wavering feelings are normal you must not forget that. However much you feel you can't PLEASE know you CAN! I do feel sad about the dog as a dog is waay more than just a pet if you are like me. But it's one of many obstacles you are having to face right now xx