Is it normal for a supposedly happily married woman of 40, to suddenly start fantasising about a boyfriend from years ago?!
So as not to drip feed. I love my husband with all my heart. We have been together 6 years and we have a 3yo child. I've been off sex since child was born. He's been understanding but pretty pissed off. I do engage about once a week/10 days and I really enjoy it when we do it. But otherwise I see it as a bit of a chore 
In the last couple of weeks I've had more than one dream about an ex. We were only together for about 6 months but I never really totally got over him. It wasn't real though. He was a nice guy, but he poured so much emotion into such a short period of time. Sexually it was brilliant. But then I wanted to get too serious too soon and he didn't. It happens. But at the time I was devastated.
Why can't I feel this passion for the husband I love and love and love. And who genuinely loves me back??? How can I make this better?