Meeting a guy I met online and he's asked me to stay at his house?

[gaynor83]

I have been chatting with a guy on Facebook for around 2 years, and we have arranged to meet up.
He lives an hour away, I'm happy to drive to see him..his town is much nicer than mine. He said it's fine for me to stay in his spare room, said he's a gentleman etc. I'm sure he is, we have been talking for ages.
I was thinking of just booking myself a room though, cos I kind of feel like I want to be independent.
Does this seem rude of me? Or should I just stay at his?
I honestly don't think he has ulterior motives. I just like my space.

It's an hour, why do you need a room. I'm driving an hour to work later, and afterwards I just drive back.
I know it means you can't drink but that would be an asset if you are meeting a stranger for the first time, you want to have your faculties working properly.

An actual gentleman would suggest meeting for lunch or a fun day out somewhere convenient for both of you. This sounds weird and you sound like a people-pleaser tbh with your "Does this seem rude of me?" Be very careful. However "rude" you think you're being, be more rude!

on second thoughts OP, I agree with lunch time suggestions 1/2 way between you both and drive back. Its really easy to get carried away on phone or social media and realise as soon as you see them you dont like the way they walk, cock their heads, eat, speaking voice, dress sense etc whatever its the small things that you just dont get a feel of till you have met. I know its shallow, but attraction often is and why pay a chunk out to realise within 10 minutes he isnt for you! he may of course be amazing and you like everything-- if so, then you meet again!

An hour away? You mean an actual proper hour? Sixty minutes? Not some weird country hour that in reality is 180 minutes? Why on earth would you need to stay over at hotel, let alone his place when he’s only an hour away?

I drive an hour to and from work every day. And this evening I’m taking my wife out for a meal - almost an hour away from where we live.

It’s no big deal. Just go meet him somewhere, then go back home afterwards.

Everything about this is odd. Two years? No phone calls? Staying over for the sake of am hour?

@Gaynor83

An old thread but dying to know what became of this guy? Did you meet up? Was it all okay?