Post C Section Intimacy. Warning: TMI!

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Please shed some light on when you felt able to 'get back to normal' post c section? I know this should be posted in the sex section but I haven't been on MN for 90 days yet so I couldn't.

I am desperate to get things going again with DH and I and I've felt this way since the day I came home from hospital! We tried once but hardly got it in (being an EMCS I thought I would labour naturally and had strengthened my pelvic floor to epic proportions in preparation, now he won't fit!?!?).

It was SO painful and that was at 2 1/2 weeks so do you think by 6 weeks it will stop hurting? I am so needy for his attention and loving and he feels the same!! Ahhh this is torture!

Your stories and experiences please

The op doesn't need gina ford. Her baby already sleeps all day and all night.

@user1495832265 I'm only having a laugh at myself! I wouldn't really class myself as a pevert, I just want to make love with my husband again and wanted some advice on how long others waited is all

@monstamio she does sleep well, she might not always but right now she does. I'm not sure why you're being sarky, I wrote warning: TMI in the actual title so you didn't have to read and didn't have to comment, you literally haven't said anything helpful you've just made fun of me and challenged everything I've said.

Also I don't know who Gina Ford is!

Yes, OP. I think we get it.
I just wondered why you said you prefer PIV and then called yourself a perv. Very odd.

Have you tried taking it up the arse instead?

Is this thread a joke? Must be

Mine does too, that's why I'm on here! Actually baby number one was jaundiced so that explains his sleepy habits, but this one's just a dream. I actually took her back to the hospital the day after we came home because i was worried she slept too much!

So far since she's been born I've taken my toddler to and from nursery almost daily, been on numerous days out, to playgroups, the park, sanded and oiled a complete dining room set over the course of a week and my house has never been cleaner. I feel extremely lucky and I know it won't last (it wasn't like this last time!) but truly it does happen.

Actually I'm hoping what I've written might be very helpful to people reading the thread.

I'm out now.

Two weeks !!!!
I was OK at five and even then, when I look back - what is the hurry ??

Be kind to yourself

OP I have no idea why people are being arsey except for that they cannot imagine anyone having a different experience from their own.

By the way the horniness wears off around 4-6 weeks and the tiredness from the night feeding kicks in around 8 weeks when the novelty and the adrenaline wear off (for me anyway) so it's a limited window. Take care with your stitches though!

@ratrolypoly me too! I know I'm savouring every moment while I can, getting out and about is really great after a long tough pregnancy!

@user1495832265 no this thread is not a joke!? You didn't get that I was joking about being a perv either!! You're not a perv for fancying your hubby! It's good not to take yourself too seriously I think but yep this is a genuine thread asking for genuine advice! Which has all been great, thanks ladies!

PS the health visitor did drop into conversation to wait until after my six week check to be cautious, but did say it was up to me.

@ratrolypoly the Health Visitor said it's up to you? Hmm... maybe I will ask mine when I see her tomorrow! I guess they advise 6 weeks to be extra safe, but being careful of infection is definitely what's making me cautious!

Did you have a thread in Childbirth eariler this month asking the same question?

@parkheadParadise yes I did! I was new to MN and didn't realise there was a 'relationship' section but I found it today!

Not many people commented so I asked again on relationships instead =)

Can't see if anyone has reminded you but you can get pregnant ebf and before you even have a period!! My neighbour had less than ten months between her 2x dd!!

Thank you! Yes I happened to know because DSIL got pregnant 3 weeks after she gave birth!! I will be extra careful...

Your stories and experiences please

We tried once but hardly got it in (being an EMCS I thought I would labour naturally and had strengthened my pelvic floor to epic proportions in preparation, now he won't fit!?!?).

My "stories and experiences" tell me that that's not how pelvic floor muscles work.

Hope that helps, fellow female! ~giggle~

Tony

@HoldMeCloserTonyDanza well I did all my exercises and pregnancy yoga twice a week so I thought that might be why things have changed down there, but ratrolypoly pointed out in a post that it's hormones that pull everything back together after birth, but after a CS that doesn't need to happen so it can just make it uncomfortable.

I guess I can't take the credit, it wasn't yoga- it was hormones! Either way it's painful!! Hence asking advice.

I am female. Who's Tony!?

Mine was ELCS, so not sure if comparable, but we were having sex 3 weeks after the surgery. I thing vaginal birthers usually have to wait much longer (for obvious reasons!) - sometimes even months!!

I have three children, first and last would rather have poked my own eyes out with a rusty nail than contemplated 'intimacy'. Number two, was crawling the walls with horniness after a week

Must be an hormonal response. Go for it

Maybe you should concentrate on your new baby rather than getting your rocks off

We will be deleting this thread soon while we take a closer look.