Title says it all.
I dont know what to do.
I love him. He's supportive, gentle, kind, handsome and ripped to boot (superficial I know, but come on!), very clean and tidy, well turned out, always helping his mum fix stuff up....but hes a fucking manchild.
Problem after problem after problem with the bank. Scraping by, money troubles, fell 5 months behind in rent, got laid off, period of depression and unemployment, started his own business and giving it...80%.
Mother and sister baby him, goes to one of their houses to eat if not mine. Sister texts me to check is he up and awake in the mornings ffs. Car broke down was running it so he had to stop every 20 minutes and twiddle it to be able to function - this went on for 6 months, finally sorted now.
Hes so supportive of me and my plans, helps me come up with new ways of looking at things, encouraging of me to pursue goals, travel, etc etc.
But he has no money or that much desire to travel or have plans.
Its crazy, i feel so happy and right with him, but also so alone in soke ways. Can anyone relate?
Hes 37 and the way he lives its like hes 18. I think i feel lost because i love him and am happy with him. But how will we ever live together? How will we ever start a family? We've never discussed it seriously but i do know he wants that. But how, when his lifestyle is just one financial crisis after the next? He doesnt seem rushed to make a home or have kids any time soon. He wants it but doesnt he realise time is moving by?
I dont know what to do. I make good money and have dreams. I wanted him to be able to share dreams with. Things are getting better for him but I guess what im asking is....based on your experience, is he going to wake up? Or am i going to be sat here in 10 years time aged 45 and still waiting?
We dont argue, we have a nice kind of warm feeling relationship. But i guess this stuff has been on my mind and i needed to vent.