Am I over reacting?

[Dontknowwhattothini]

My bf of 3 yrs has announced that when he goes on half term holiday with his dds their mum will be going too. Apparently I should trust him. It's just too make his daughters happy. I am overacting by not liking it?

Why are you settling for being so far down on his priority list. I get that DC come first but he didn't even think about you! I understand you maybe don't want to lose him but honestly you can't be happy with this. Where is your self respect? I totally get that it's hard. My ex is trying to reel me back in after treating me like crap and as tempting as it is (he was a genuinely lovely partner) I can't do it. I'm so so tempted but no. Be stronger than this x

You really should value yourself more and dump him. If he loved you, he would think of you when making decisions like this and not bloody go away with his ex.
I can't imagine any circumstance when this is appropriate.
I do feel for you but don't spend any more time with him. Three years is long enough.

OP, come on! You're better than this. Don't accept crumbs off the table

PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!!!!! You have just handed him a prime opportunity to fuck his ex..... Hundreds of miles away from you! Then when he gets back, expect a message from her with all the gory details, informing you of how many times they did it and then an uncomfortable "We need to talk..." text/chat from him

Thank you for all of your comments (glue excluded).

I wanted to see what other people reactions were and the majority felt as I did. There are a couple of examples though of this kind of thing happening and working. I due believe it's coming from a genuine place. He really is the sort of person who would do anything for anyone. And rightly, dc trumps everything. I have explained my concerns and disappointment at how he has handled this and I feel heard.

I don't want anyone to feel I am ignoring their advice, however I'm also not going to do something just cause mn tells me too

I am going to see how it goes. It may well be that things don't work out and this is the start of it. I'm hoping not but time will tell.

This is really sad.

After three years of being together your feelings aren't considered or even thought about how this could affect your relationship and you're willing to just accept that.

I'm sorry but I actually feel this is incredibly confusing and giving potential false hope to their DD's to see mummy and daddy enjoying a holiday together again. Laughing, eating and drinking together. What's the room set up like too- a family room for 4? They'll be hoping their family is back together again- just why?!! Unless that really is what the intention is.

I wouldn't be sitting there waiting for the next shock, OP. You'll be sitting at home wondering what they're getting up to during the whole week..

You have just handed him a prime opportunity to fuck his ex.
We don't live together if he were really wanting to do that it has ample opportunity already.

I think you're blinded by love goggles and that you'd "See how it goes" no matter why he did to you. You just don't want to lose him do you? So you're letting yourself be walked all over a

...and taken for a ride!