Just found out husband has joined certain websites

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Just found out husband has been joining certain websites, what to do.

Investigate further.

Sorry what do you mean by investigate further.

What websites?

How do you know he's joined?
What type of websites are you alleging he's joined?
Has he definitely signed up or received emails? I regularly get spam from gay dating sites for example.
I think to get any coherent responses you'll need to give a bit more detail.

Well where do I start accidentally found out we have passwords saved on the computer , and I was filling it a form pressed saved password on my phone at these websites came up , flirton. Com totally free dating and such.

Not sure that's how the technology works TBH, but that's beside the point.

If there's a password saved then someone has logged into that site (or tried to) from a machine that's syncd to the account (e.g. Google, Windows) and chosen to save the password (I don't think any of the methods save it automatically by default). So it could have been done from another device (phone, tablet) that is linked to the same Google account, for instance.

That doesn't help you much with the main problems though.

Do other people use the computer? Kids etc?

Yes kids also use the computer, but it's his email address and I did log on to one of the sites with the password it worked. Dunno what to do shall I confront him.

Set up one yourself and see if he bites to the bait. .

I think you probably have to. Can you log in and see if he has sent/received messages?

That's entirely up to you.
Do you want to brush it under the carpet and turn off all your instincts and pretend you didn't see it?
Or do you want to confront him?
If you don't, this will slowly eat away at you and the resentment towards him will build and build.
If he's on dating sites could you set up a fake profile and catch him out?

Maybe he bored he doesn't go out only to work and to pick kids from school, he had a Facebook account full of girls told him to deactivate it this was a while ago.I'm sure he has another don't know about catching him out he'll prob think I'm cheating.

Being bored is not an excuse for going on dating websites. By the sound of it, he’s also got form for this kind of thing.
I suppose it’s up to you, but it’d be a deal breaker for me.

Sorry if I should stupid what do you mean form.

What to do?

Log in to the account and read his messages and profile. Screenshot them and divorce him.

We have been married a long time also I'm pregnant I'll have a look at the websites .

I was only able to log into 2 he hasn't sent any messages there is no picture of him on there , the others he prob changed the passwords he probably doesn't even know he has saved the passwords. I don't know maybe he wanted me to find out.

You don't need to divorce him or do anything drastic but for your own sanity you probably need to know what he's been doing. I'd suggest you do look at the profiles, and then sit down and talk through it all calmly with him. See what he says, and ask him why he's done it.

Ah ok, so that's not as bad as it could have been. But you probably do need to talk to him about it.

I would have been really angry if he had sent messages or met with someone. Why men do this I don't know oh did I not mention he also like watching porn which I don't.

I don't think porn is too big a deal (although everyone's relationship is different) but the websites are a problem. Poor you!

Yes this isn't on. He had a Facebook full of women, you asked him to deactivate it but now he has done the same but in a dating site?! He shouldn't be actively looking in dating sites or collecting random women on Facebook. It's completely disrespectful to you as his wife.

I would take a photo of his login and profile so he can't deny his way out of it then discuss it.

And if you're not comfortable with him watching porn you need to tell him this too

Sorry, you told him to delete his FB account because it was "full of girls"?

That sounds very controlling to me.
What's the rest of your relationship like?

What a disrespectful git, makes a mockery of marriage.

OP, he does not sound trustworthy, full of girls on FB, now various dating sites; and porn too; not the kind of man I'd want but each to their own.

Sorry I'm not controlling this was a while ago I said that to him. He knows my email password it's saved on the computer I have nothing to hide.