Just found out husband has joined certain websites

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Just found out husband has been joining certain websites, what to do.

Scruffy , I think he the controlling one doesn't like me wearing makeup or wearing tight clothes when I go out.

Yes I don't think it's controlling to request he stop doing that! I'd have done the same.

I confronted him showed him the websites he denied it saying it was a while a go.

He won't tell me his email password he prob has plenty to hide

@ScruffyLookingNerfHerder controlling? Really I'd be the same if my DH had a facebook full of girls.... if you let your boyfriend/ partner whatever do that then think it's your relationship you should be focusing on....

It was a while ago? That doesn't make it ok! Has he said anything about why he did it?

No nothing about why he did it , I have his old phone the passwords were saved on there he denied all knowledge of anything on the computer . If he hadn't given me the phone I would be none the wiser. He has a new one . One account was from last year he says hasn't done anything and he has deactivated them . Why do it in the first place . I was really upset told him to leave .

Finally told me his email password of course he's deleted anything suspicious, he says he will change the password again.

It doesn't sound to me like he really cares about you being upset, or like he's particularly sorry. If you don't mind me asking, what is/was your relationship like in general, aside from this?

It was ok I suppose we had our ups and downs.

You're pregnant and he's doing this?

In my mind these antics are furtive and juvenile best, utterly despicable at worst.
He's hurting and disrespecting you at your most vulnerable time when he should be cherishing you.

I'd have to have it out with him. I don't know if I could just move past it even if it was "nothing just harmless bored silly behaviour" (his words I'm guessing)

How is everything now OP? Have you spoken any more?

Mumofone234, it’s a bit strained at the moment not really talking, he going away for a month abroad work stuff maybe the break will do us good.

Yes perhaps that will give you both time to work out what you want (I think he sounds a bit unsure about this at the moment). While he's away, try to focus on being kind to yourself and doing things that make you happy. Especially as you're pregnant - you've got so much going on at the moment anyway!

Mumofone234 yes thanks think you are right just feeling venerable at the moment, think he may have done stuff like this before.